Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

How to Work Smarter, Not Harder: A Guide for Immigrant Businesswomen to Break Free from Over-Reliance on Others

As an immigrant businesswoman, you face unique challenges that can lead to feeling overworked and exhausted. But it doesn’t have to be this way! Here are some common habits that might be holding you back and how to overcome them:

Fear of Criticism and Judgement

  • Personal Life: Do you avoid sharing your true feelings because you’re afraid of being judged? Support yourself by practicing expressing your feelings with a trusted friend or in a journal.

  • Business: Do you hold back your ideas at work because you’re scared of criticism? Share one idea in a meeting and remind yourself that feedback is a chance to grow.

Wanting to Do Everything “Perfectly”

  • Personal Life: Do you feel stressed trying to make everything perfect at home? Set realistic goals and accept that it’s okay to make mistakes.

  • Business: Do you spend extra hours at work trying to make every detail perfect? Prioritize tasks and focus on what’s most important.

Being Dishonest with Ourselves Without Even Realizing It

  • Personal Life: Do you sometimes tell yourself you’re fine when you’re really not? Check in with your feelings regularly and be honest with yourself.

  • Business: Do you convince yourself that you need to work harder even when you’re exhausted? Recognize when you need a break and take it.

Procrastination and Putting Things Off for Fear of Messing Up

  • Personal Life: Do you delay tasks at home because you’re afraid of making mistakes? Break tasks into smaller steps and tackle them one at a time.

  • Business: Do you avoid starting work projects because you’re scared of failing? Set a deadline for starting and focus on progress, not perfection.

By addressing these habits, you can start working smarter, not harder. Ready to take the next step? Schedule a consultation session with me today and let’s work together to create a balanced and successful business journey.

Schedule Your Consultation Today

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

Unlock Your Potential: Work Smarter, Not Harder

So many immigrant businesswomen find themselves solving problems in their lives and businesses the same way: working harder, putting in more effort, spending more time, doing more things, or struggling harder. This approach works, but only incrementally. It might create 1%, 2%, or maybe 5% improvements, but it will never achieve 2X or 10X results.

So many immigrant businesswomen find themselves solving problems in their lives and businesses the same way: working harder, putting in more effort, spending more time, doing more things, or struggling harder. This approach works, but only incrementally. It might create 1%, 2%, or maybe 5% improvements, but it will never achieve 2X or 10X results.

 

To 2X or 10X your returns, you need to find easier, more effortless ways to get more bang for your time, thoughts, feelings, and actions. I help my clients identify what thinking, feeling, and action created their current results. I also help them identify what different thinking, feelings, and actions will help them create different results.

 

For example, a client may sometimes feel frustrated and bored and try to solve it by doing more things. I advise my clients to approach the feeling of boredom differently, believing it can unleash a very different experience. I encourage them to sit in boredom and be curious. I suggest they ask themselves different questions, such as:

 

  • What if it was 1% easier?

  • What would require 1% less effort AND still get me the same return?

  • What would I be thinking, feeling, or doing if I believed it could be less of a struggle?

At first, these questions will yield different solutions that will compound into a very different thought, feeling, and action cycle over time.

 

Let us start working smarter to create radically different results.

 

Ready to transform your approach and achieve extraordinary results?

Schedule a call with me today.

Let’s unlock your potential together!

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

Achieve Your Goals Without Working Too Hard

We all face challenges when trying to reach big goals. These challenges can either slow us down or help us get closer to what we want. The choice is ours.

We all face challenges when trying to reach big goals. These challenges can either slow us down or help us get closer to what we want. The choice is ours.

 

I help people like you understand and overcome these challenges. Here’s how we do it:

 

Find the Cause: Understand what’s causing your challenges.

Plan Your Actions: Decide how to think, feel, and act despite these challenges.

For example, if you feel scared or doubtful, it’s easy to think you can’t reach your goal. I help my clients see why these feelings are normal, how to manage them, and what to do next.

 

Overthinking is another common problem. Instead of getting stuck in your thoughts, I help you figure out which thoughts are helpful and which are not, so you can take action.

 

Both ways involve hard work, but one will get you closer to your goals without wearing you out.

 

Are you ready to work smarter and reach your goals without extra stress? Schedule a consultation to start today.

 

Start Working Smarter Now

 

Let’s create the life you want while saving time and energy for what really matters.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

We will feel the feeling anyway. It will be uncomfortable either way; what uncomfortable do you want to have?

Accept that there will be uncomfortable emotions regardless if we go for our goal or if we play small and do not go for our goal.

My life was transformed when my coach told me, “We will feel the feeling anyway. It will be uncomfortable either way; what uncomfortable do you want to have? “

Want to work smarter?

Accept that there will be uncomfortable emotions regardless if we go for our goal or if we play small and do not go for our goal.

My life was transformed when my coach told me, “We will feel the feeling anyway. It will be uncomfortable either way; what uncomfortable do you want to have? “

Up to that point in my life, I believed there was a different emotion if I went for my goal versus if I quit and did not go for my goal.

What I quickly learned is there will be disappointment if I don’t go for my goal, or if I go for my goal, there is a chance I will be disappointed or a chance there will be uncomfortable emotions as I grow and stretch my capacity to grow my identity as the new version of myself.

I get to choose my uncomfortable emotions, but going for my goal also has the chance I will succeed.

Too many of us cause ourselves to work harder and longer when we choose the disappointment or discomfort of not going for our goals because we think these “known” emotions are “better” than the other emotions.

My friend, emotions are emotions, just vibrations in our bodies.

There are no emotions that feel “worse than’ other emotions.

Working smarter is choosing to feel emotions, process them and learn from them while we create our goals.

Working smarter is becoming emotionally strong by accepting all emotions and using them as tools in creating our goals.

Working smarter is going past our emotions to choose powerful uncomfortable emotions that will generate more results because we use our emotions for us.

Want to learn how? I can help you.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

Are the actions you are taking increasing productivity?

Want to start working smarter?

I identify if the actions you are taking are increasing your productivity or results or not.

I love taking action.

I love being very productive, and the more things I can do, the better.

Want to start working smarter?

I identify if the actions you are taking are increasing your productivity or results or not.

I love taking action.

I love being very productive, and the more things I can do, the better.

I also love learning and wisdom.

I WAS SO EXCITED when I first thought about a career where I get paid to learn.

Coaching pays me to learn and gather amazing information, with the positive side effect of my life and those of my loved ones and clients being impacted positively.

The problem happened when I was out of time and still had so many more actions and learning to do.

Time is finite and is limited.

So how was I to solve for this internal drive to do and learn more?

My brain came up with multitasking, but it led to me not being focused or not performing at my highest level.

Next, my brain chose to sign up for more time management classes and programs that would help me be more productive.

I was looking for more actions or knowledge outside of me.

My life was transformed when my mentor introduced me to mind management.

Not another action or knowledge, but a “cleaning up” of the thoughts, feelings, and actions I was already taking.

Mind management is like organizing but for the mind.

When I started using this tool and cleaning up my mind, my productivity and time management went through the roof.

Why?

I eliminated things that were costing me time, energy, and effort.

I could tap into my highest mind and use it to create faster results.

Faster than any time management or productivity tool I had learned till then.

It was the ultimate time management hack.

Turns out time management is all about mind management.

My energy level improved, and so did the results I was creating.

If you, like me, are trying to solve your productivity with another program or tool, send me a message.

Learn mind management and see the net positive impact on every area of your life.

Schedule a consultation today.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

Have you ever questioned how some people can create or earn more than the average in 40 hours?

Have you ever questioned how some people can create or earn more than the average in 40 hours?

We are sold the concept that “The more you work/ harder/ busier you are, the more money you will make” or that “ to earn more money, we need to work harder or do more things” or “the more knowledge you have, the more money you will make.”  

We are sold the concept that “The more you work/ harder/ busier you are, the more money you will make” or that “ to earn more money, we need to work harder or do more things” or “the more knowledge you have, the more money you will make.”  

And these thoughts work until we start looking to double or 10X our income.

If our current money took us 40 hours, how will we double or 10X our income?

This is one of the questions I answer most in my coaching practice.

My clients are hard workers and solve their current business problems with similar thoughts that cause them to work harder and longer in the attempt to earn more money.

When they hire me, they are exhausted and/or burnt out, thinking of changing their big goal for a “reasonable goal.”

That is; one that their brain can solve the how many hours and how many things they can do to get the desired results.

Below are six concepts I teach my client to help them double to 10X their income in the same time as before:

1. We do audits.

These can be in the form of a time, money, or energy audit. We identify what they are doing that is not assisting them in creating their current goals and what can be eliminated or outsourced. We find where they have tried to add more actions, take on more tasks, or add more hours to increase income.

2. We evaluate their current level of emotional intelligence and grow their emotional maturity to support their new level of business or leadership.

Emotional intelligence is one's capacity to be aware of, manage and express one’s emotions to handle relationships with anyone and any result. Any growth in emotional intelligence has a positive impact on earnings.

3. We evaluate their current relationship with themselves.

Society teaches us to create more results; we must be harder on ourselves. When we are, it is like we are in the arena getting our ass beat, and when we are down, we have a knee on our own, backstopping us from getting back up. Unfortunately, most of my hard-working clients will be able to get back up, but it's harder when you are the one trying to keep you down.

4. To increase productivity or income, some of my clients will result in multi-tasking.

This was one of my biggest problems. I would be working on a project I deemed needed low attention and listening to a podcast or an audible. The problem is I was not focused and, thus, not tapping into my brain's highest creativity. When my clients and I block out focus time and create a no-distraction zone, we tap into our brain's highest wisdom and thought-creation ability. Our thoughts create money, so the more creative our thoughts are, the more money we earn.

5. We identify where some of their time, money, and energy is being spent, as some individuals will tie themselves to technology to get more done.

They are not present with family or friends because they need to respond to that one email or massage. We create a system that supports them when working and creative habits that support them when they are with friends and family.

6. We identify how they identify problems, how they solve the problems, and their current repeated solution to the problems.

Some clients will solve all their problems by throwing money at the problem. Others will hire individuals before they know the root cause of the problem, so it is unclear what they are hiring for. In comparison,

others will get more education or more knowledge. I help them not only identify the root cause of the problem but also to find the best solution to the problem. Sometimes the solution is feeling and processing uncomfortable emotions.

When we address these six areas, my clients not only start working smarter, but they also start enjoying the life and business they have.

If you are ready to start working smarter and not harder, I can help you.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

One of the most common thoughts I coach my clients on is, “It is not working.”

One of the most common thoughts I coach my clients on is, “It is not working.”

When my clients think this, they feel disappointed and defeated and want to avoid or blame their business.

This one thought keeps them spinning in disappointment and defeated, and sometimes they will say, “I am stuck” or “I feel stuck”.

The most hardworking and determined clients will start looking for more things to do to solve the problem and identify more things to do, change or adjust, but from the emotions of disappointment and defeat.

When I coach them, my first question will be, “What is “it” and what does “not working mean”?

When we identify these two things, we consider what they can do differently in their actions, thoughts, and feelings.  I am always amazed by their uniqueness and creativity from this simple clarification.

Some clients will look focus on their thoughts and beliefs.

Other clients will look at the value they are already bringing and increase the value in what they are doing.

Other clients will find ways to streamline their marketing and make it easier for people to understand how their service or product can help their people.

In comparison, another client will increase their offers or clean up their niche.

And these are just some of the amazing ways my clients have gone from disappointed and defeated to inspired, determined, and committed in one call with me.

Working smarter is more than doing more things or doing them faster.

Working smarter is asking different questions, thinking different thoughts, feeling different emotions, and sometimes doing different things.

Working smarter includes eliminating the “stuck,” getting things flowing, and creating more results faster.

If you are ready to start working smarter and not harder, I can help you. Schedule a consultation call today.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

Hope pretends to be a powerful emotion covered in a cloak of positivity, but it causes us to work harder and longer than necessary.

No one works harder than a hard-working woman who uses the emotion of hope to create the life they want. Hope pretends to be a powerful emotion covered in a cloak of positivity, but it causes us to work harder and longer than necessary.

No one works harder than a hard-working woman who uses the emotion of hope to create the life they want.

Hope pretends to be a powerful emotion covered in a cloak of positivity, but it causes us to work harder and longer than necessary.

Hope is one of my default emotions, and I usually need to check in with myself and my body regularly to ensure I am not using hope to create the life and business I want.

When I fall into the feeling of hope, I notice that I will either not take action or, in my brain, wishing and praying something or someone outside me will be different or take action.

When I am feeling hopeful, I notice that my go-to activities are signing up for another program, buying another book, gathering knowledge, and hoping someone in the world can solve my path to creating what I want.

When I learned my relationship with the feeling of hope was not inspiring intentional actions, I started choosing more empowering emotions like commitment, determined, confidence, and resolved.

From these emotions, I naturally find myself taking massive action, including evaluating the results I create to see if my actions could be even more effective.

From these emotions, I notice the ease of fully owning my success, future, and the life I want to create.

I choose to work on myself and who I am becoming in the world, which also fuels more intentional and deliberate actions.

Unfortunately, hoping sometimes works, and we can think of people who hoped life would be better, and it did.

The problem is that hoping, wishing, and praying does not work, creating resentment in the external thing we were looking to create the desired result.

Want to learn how to create more intentional and massive action fueling emotions like commitment, determination, confidence, and resolve? I can support you.

Schedule a consultation today and start working smarter.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

We work smarter when we choose to make decisions and practice making more powerful decisions.

We work smarter when we choose to make decisions and practice making more powerful decisions.

Decisions are a way for us to work smarter as they help us create the lives and businesses we want without working longer or harder than necessary.

We work smarter when we choose to make decisions and practice making more powerful decisions.

Decisions are a way for us to work smarter as they help us create the lives and businesses we want without working longer or harder than necessary.

When we make decisions, we give ourselves the power to inspire aligned thoughts, feelings, and actions that will support us as we create the highest versions of ourselves.

Below are six ways we cause ourselves to work harder and longer than necessary.

1. When we do not make decisions and live on autopilot based on decisions made years ago.

When we think we must keep the same decisions a younger version of ourselves made 25 years ago, we obligate ourselves or our future self to choices that may not be aligned with our current self. We cause our present self feel resentful and unmotivated to show up as our best selves. We do not need to be married to the same person, live in the same house, follow the same career path, etc. But why would the current self choose it? Why would the current you decide to be married to the same person? Would the current you choose the same house? Would the current you choose the same career? Why or why not. Sometimes the answer is yes, and sometimes no. Just make sure you like your reasons for the you you are today.

2. Thinking there is a right or wrong decision.

The key to working smarter is learning that there are no right or wrong decisions but how we think about them.

3. We don’t make decisions ahead of time or honor them if we make them.

Making decisions ahead of time is using our highest brain to determine what our future self will do, and we build our relationship with ourselves when we set our future self up to succeed and then follow through with our word to ourselves.

4. Not making decisions as we think some decisions will be mistakes or lead to failures.

We are either winning or learning. When we make decisions, we will either get the result we want or learn so much about

ourselves and the process.

5. Thinking that the emotions that come after we make a decision mean it is wrong.

All decisions come with emotions; sometimes, emotions are a gift to reveal our current relationship with ourselves.

6. Thinking that making decisions takes time.

We make decisions in a second. Any time that came before we made the decision was most likely because of one or more of the prior beliefs about decision-making.

Ready to start working smarter by making powerful decisions? I am here to support you. Schedule a consultation call today.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

What do you do when you are stuck, doing the same thing and not moving forward?

What do you do when you are stuck, doing the same thing and not moving forward?

What do you do when your ideas, knowledge, and wisdom are not creating the desired results?

Before working with me, most of the clients would tell me – “the solution is to think of other things to do.”

What do you do when you are stuck, doing the same thing and not moving forward?

What do you do when your ideas, knowledge, and wisdom are not creating the desired results?

Before working with me, most of the clients would tell me – “the solution is to think of other things to do.”

Their solution is to use their brains to think of or cultivate more thoughts of things or actions to do.

Therefore, doing more of the same things that brought them where they are now, exhausted or burnt out from all the thinking and doing.

My most recent transformation did not come from more thoughts or more actions but from feeling my emotions.

The thought, feeling, and action cycle includes the feelings part.

Most exhausted and burnout individuals miss the valuable and amazing feelings part of the thought, feeling, and action cycle.

When I tried to over-action to try to bypass the feelings part of the thought, feelings, and action cycle, it left me missing the value of the feelings and how they play a part in all my results or lack thereof.

When I started connecting with my body and emotions by acknowledging them, feeling them, processing them, and allowing them to be part of the thought, feeling, and action cycle, my results flowed easier and faster.

This transformation of allowing feelings to be part of the work is how my clients and I start working smarter and not harder.

Working smarter includes feelings and using all aspects of the thought, feelings, and actions cycle.

Working smarter includes allowing our humanity and ALL humans have emotions.

Working smarter includes thinking powerful thoughts, feeling the feelings, and allowing the body to take powerful actions.

Want to start working smarter?

Acknowledge the feelings part of the thought, feeling, and action cycle and start using your feeling to take the powerful actions your body already knows to take.

Ready to start working smarter? I am here to support you. Schedule a consultation call today.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

Do you know you can be a very hard worker, always busy, and still be an underearning?

Do you know you can be a very hard worker, always busy, and still be an underearning?

Below are some common myths about underearners that you may be experiencing.

Below are some common myths about underearners that you may be experiencing.

1. Underearners are people who underwork.

Underearners may be some of the busiest, hard-working people you may have encountered. This may include you. They may be the person you see doing everything, volunteering their time, working overtime or multiple jobs, and being on all the committees. When I was an underearning, I was the first to raise my hand and volnteree to do everything for my employer. I believed the more productive and busy I was, the more money I would earn.

2. Underearers are people who are underachievers.

On the contrary, they are almost always overachievers but associate overachieving

with accomplishing many things. The mistake is not linking the achieving with our

earning protentional.

3. Underearners are people who have a low income.

The key to being an underearner is earning less than we want to and that we expect or

know we can earn. Thus our earning potential. An underearner can earn a million

dollars a year, but their earning potential is ten million dollars a year.

4. Underearners have low self-esteem or low self-concept.

One can have a high self-concept and still give their power away to others. They may know their worth and value and still not know their full worth and value by giving their power away to people, places and things or thinking their power is based on things outside them.

5. Underearners do not think of money or overspending.

Underearners think of money more than people who earn what they can earn because of their relationship with money. Underearners spend money to avoid their thoughts and feelings about money or start a business, work overtime, or get second and third jobs because of their belief about money.

When we work smarter, we understand why and where we are underearning, so we can change our patterns and earn what we want to earn.

Ready to work smarter and stop underearning? Schedule a consultation call today.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

We work smarter when we understand if we are underearning

We work smarter when we understand if we are underearning and what we need to do to start earning what we want to earn.

According to Webster, underearning is the act of “earning less than might be expected.”

Or, according to Barbara Stanny, “Someone who makes less than she needs or desires despite efforts to do otherwise.”

Some of my hard-working and very intelligent clients are also underearners.

This is because underearning is not caused by underworking, underachieving, or having a low income.

It is caused by our thoughts, feelings, and actions that cause us to underearn.

It is caused by how we may have been raised or programmed, which has us repeating old patterns that create an experience where we earn less than we can or want to earn.

Some of my past underearning patterns were undervaluing my time by undercharging for my services and expertise, undervaluing my skills and wisdom and thus not requesting to be compensated for the value I was providing, not asking for a raise or when I did accept the excuses given, or not following through with opportunities to earn more that were offered to me or came my way.

When we work smarter, we not only earn what we want to earn but also understand how to avoid underearning.

Ready to start earning more money in less time by working smarter? I am here to support you.

Schedule a consultation call today.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

Six things the time management industry does not want you to know

Six things the time management industry does not want you to know and is causing you to be burnt out and make less money than others.

1. The concept of time is money.

Six things the time management industry does not want you to know and is causing you to be burnt out and make less money than others.

1. The concept of time is money.

Time is time, but the value we create in the time we have is what creates money. Money is created by the value we create using our minds.

2. We can manage time so that we can get more done.

Time is a mental construct; we do not manage time but actually manage our thoughts, feelings, and actions in the allotted time. Working smarter means understanding that we manage our minds and use our minds to create value in the allotted time.

3. Busyness and doing many actions make our lives more valuable.

Some actions or ways we spend our time are more valuable than others based on how much we think and feel about it. Creating a rewarding life is the experiences and value we create in the time we choose.

4. The more actions we take, or the more stressed and busy we are, the more productive we are.

Productivity decreases with time and the more busy and stressed we are. We can be more productive in 15 minutes by how we think and feel, by the valuable questions we ask ourselves, and by the problems we solve than someone who worked for 15 hours being busy and reacting.

5. The quantity of time spent on something increases the item's value.

The quality of a product, or the more valuable a product is, has zero to do with the time taken to create it. When we work on our minds through coaching, learning, asking powerful questions, and increasing our capacity to create massive value, we create unlimited money and opportunities for ourselves. One question or coaching session can forever change and make our life more valuable.

6. The more time we spend on something, the more productive we are.

Productivity is based on the result or finished product created. When we use our minds to create an outstanding finished product, it can use less time or be more effective than initially thought.

Ready to start making more money in less time by working smarter? I am here to support you.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

Managing our minds and emotions to create higher yielding results.

I have always been driven to achieve more and create more in my life, and nothing has had more impact on my life and success than how I manage my mind and emotions.

In the past, my emotions were the last thing I would consider.

I have always been driven to achieve more and create more in my life, and nothing has had more impact on my life and success than how I manage my mind and emotions.

In the past, my emotions were the last thing I would consider.

I would avoid, buffer away or resist my emotions and not see how these actions cost me time, energy, and success.

Worse yet, others would see how I was not in touch with my emotions and manipulate me and my emotions to get their way.

Lord knows nothing is more exhausting and time-consuming than trying to avoid, buffer from, or resist your emotions when you are in a toxic environment that triggers your emotions intentionally.

Most clients come to me to learn how to work smarter and want to learn the actions to take and not take.

I teach them the importance of their thoughts and feelings in driving all their efforts and inactions.

Before learning to manage our emotions, we can do 20 things and be exhausted.

And after learning how to manage our emotions, we can do the same 20 things or more and be energized and motivated to do it again.

If we convert the 20 things into high-yielding actions, they create more results in less time and effort.

For example, in a toxic environment, we stop being a trigger and have honest conversations that create lasting and permanent change.

We will be further along and less exhausted than before.

I help my clients work smarter by learning how to manage their emotions and convert the actions to guarantee more success.

Ready to start working smarter? I can support you along your journey.

Schedule a consultation today.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

Do you feel exhausted at the end of your day? Do you dread doing the things that you want to do or fear that you will experience burnout from exhaustion?

Do you feel exhausted at the end of your day? Do you dread doing the things that you want to do or fear that you will experience burnout from exhaustion? I help my clients understand and find the root cause of exhaustion or burnout.

Do you feel exhausted at the end of your day? Do you dread doing the things that you want to do or fear that you will experience burnout from exhaustion? I help my clients understand and find the root cause of exhaustion or burnout. Some of the common misconceptions about exhaustion and burnout my clients have are:             

  • Exhaustion is caused by the number of actions we take. Exhaustion is caused by the thoughts and feelings from which we act.

  • Exhaustion is caused by something outside of us. Exhaustion is caused by us, in our bodies, and by what we make things mean.

  • Working smarter or doing things a certain way will eliminate exhaustion. Exhaustion can only be eliminated from the thoughts and feelings we choose to work smarter or do certain things from.

  • Burnout is caused by things outside us or the number of things that need to be done. Our thoughts and feelings about the things outside us cause burnout.

  • Burnout is caused by physical actions taken. Burnout is caused by activities like avoiding, buffering, and resisting things in our brain and our thought, feeling and action cycles when emotions arise.

  • Things outside us create energy depletion. Energy depletion is created by our mind and the patterns we choose to step into when things happen.

  • Everyone doing the same activities will feel exhaustion or burnout. Since each person has power and agency over their minds, they will feel differently about the activities and thus feel either energized or exhausted.

Working smarter has us choose the thought, feeling, and action cycles we choose on purpose to be in when we take the actions we want to take. It has us choosing on purpose what to do with emotions and what intentional thoughts, feelings, and actions we choose after we experience emotions.

I help my clients work smarter by empowering themselves to choose thoughts, feelings, and action cycles that not only create the results they want without burnout and exhaustion.

Ready to start working smarter and not harder while creating burnout or exhaustion? I can support you in your journey. Schedule a consultation.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

Our journey determines how we will feel after we achieve our goal.

One of the most disappointing experiences I see my clients go through is not that they did not create their results but that they believed when they arrived where they wanted to be that it should feel differently, AND it does not.

One of the most disappointing experiences I see my clients go through is not that they did not create their results but that they believed when they arrived where they wanted to be that it should feel differently, AND it does not.

We think that we can hustle, white knuckle, force, and pressure ourselves to get the desired result, AND that we will automatically feel different when we get there.

We believe that the destination should be different than they journey, only to experience the destination more as an extension of the journey.

AND nothing is more disappointing than that realization.

AND worse is when our brains or others recommend setting another goal, AND the only example our brains give us is the one we just had with more hustling, white-knuckling, force, and pressure.

We wonder why we avoid, procrastinate, resist, or buffer away from committing to doing it again.

I hear, “If I have to do it the same way, why bother?”

I help my clients first understand why their last goal journey felt the way it did.

We then understand why the accomplishment of the goal feels the way it does.

AND eventually tweak and adjust how their new journey will be different with love, anticipation, and dedication to who they want to be along the way.

With this deeper understanding and unique found experience, my clients not only create the results they want while working smarter and not harder.

They also set bigger goals and experience their journeys and successes differently than before.

Schedule a consultation and learn how to guarantee your journey and achieve goals can feel amazing by working smarter and not harder.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

I used to think and teach it took 28 days to create a habit until I learned that we change our identity in a second.

I used to think and teach it took 28 days to create a habit until I learned that we change our identity in a second.

When we choose to work smarter, we understand that if it takes us a second to change our identity, then why do we need 28 days?

I used to think and teach it took 28 days to create a habit until I learned that we change our identity in a second.

When we choose to work smarter, we understand that if it takes us a second to change our identity, then why do we need 28 days?

Yes, the consistent and continuous act of taking the same action for 28 days will create the proof and evidence that we have changed AND make it easier for us to believe we are the person with the new habit.

However, the belief happened in a second.

Remember a time you decided “never again,” “I am sick and tired of being sick and tired,” or “ I am done”?

We can choose to believe we are the person we want to be by thinking, feeling, and acting as the person who has the new habit, which will increase the chance we create the new habit.

With the prior belief,  on day 21, if we stopped taking action, we needed to start from day one.

But with an identity shift, if we stopped taking action on day 21, it only means we stopped taking action and can make day 22 day 21 and continue taking action.

With the prior belief, if we failed at our goal or failed at creating the proof and evidence, it meant we were not supposed to have our goal or become the person who can have our goal.

With an identity shift, failure is only a failure and data to learn and grow from.

Failure does not mean stopping, quitting, or confirming that you cannot achieve your goal.

I support my clients in creating identity shifts by working smarter and not harder.

Schedule a consultation and start working smarter today.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

“I don’t have time” or “I have to find the time.”

“I don’t have time” or “I have to find the time.”

When I hear these two sentences in coaching, I know my client believes that our money goals are created by time, actions, or effort.

“I don’t have time” or “I have to find the time.”

When I hear these two sentences in coaching, I know my client believes that our money goals are created by time, actions, or effort.

They believe they need to work longer, take more actions, or put in more effort to create their income goals.

They are in the mindset that most of the world is in; hours worked will create the money goal.

This mindset works as an employee but only takes us so far in business.

If we work X hours and make Y dollars an hour, we can make XY dollars a week.

They believe to make more money, we need to work XX hours and increase our hourly rate to XY to make XXXY dollars a week eventually.

So when clients say, “I don’t have time” or “I have to find time, " they believe they need to find the time to do more, exert more effort or work more hours to create the desired results.

I teach my clients what makes money and how to create more money without working any longer or harder.

Simple mindset shifts and asking and answering simple questions can make a difference in the value created in the same X hours.

I can support you in identifying how to create more value without working longer or harder than necessary. Schedule a consultation call.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

Confidence is 100% an inside job.

Confidence is something so many people want.

Confidence feels good and drives so much amazingness.

Unfortunately, most people do not know how to create confidence and are looking to things, people or places outside them to create confidence for them.

Confidence is 100% an inside job.

Of course, things can be created on the outside that will enhance the feeling of confidence, but the original spark of faith comes from inside you by how you think.

I teach my clients how to cultivate confidence inside them and how to become the confident person who goes out into the world and creates more confidence.

Everything we want starts from inside us and cannot be created from outside us.

Confidence is created by a belief that the worst thing that can happen is an emotion, we are willing to feel any emotion, no matter what, we will figure things out and we will have our back through it all.

From these beliefs, we show up feeling confident, which fuels all our actions and inaction.

From these beliefs, we show up confidently no matter what is happening around or if we have the results we are looking for.

When we seek confidence from outside us, confidence depends on the results and falters based on the results.

True confidence keeps us going before and especially after the results are there.

True confidence has you falling and getting back up and going back to action because you have your own back.

True confidence has you trusting yourself even if you did not show up as powerful as you could have, and is what has you creating awareness and deciding how to show up differently next time.

True confidence is a gift you get to give yourself.

Confidence is how we get twice as much done in half the time and achieve our biggest dreams.

Ready to learn how to create confidence anytime you need it? Schedule a consultation call.

Read More
Ruth Duren Ruth Duren

Our relationship with ourselves is the most fundamental relationship and is the one that will create a thriving and lasting business.

Too many struggling businesswomen miss the importance of their relationship with themselves while trying to build a successful business.

Our relationship with ourselves is the most fundamental relationship and is the one that will create a thriving and lasting business.

Too many struggling businesswomen miss the importance of their relationship with themselves while trying to build a successful business.

Our relationship with ourselves is the most fundamental relationship and is the one that will create a thriving and lasting business.

Our relationship with ourselves will be the foundation of our relationship with our business, time, money, clients/customers, and goals.

Our relationship with ourselves will be reflected in our relationship with our body, money, other people, our business, and goals, and if it’s not in alignment, so will all the others.

When we miss this relationship, neglecting it and not taking care of it will result in it not helping us create what we want on the outside.

For example, a client will tell me they don’t trust their goal or a client/customer, and when we explore deeper, we find they don’t trust themselves.

Not because they are not trustworthy but because they have beaten themselves up or labeled themselves in an attempt to force themselves to take the action they want to take.

They have eroded their most fundamental relationship, and thus it is reflected on the outside.

When my clients start rebuilding their relationships with themselves, so do their relationships with everyone and everything else outside them.

They stop abandoning themselves or beating themselves up, and people, places, and things are drawn to them.

They start creating more results with ease and fun as their self-trust, self-determination, and commitment grow to make sure they set themselves up to succeed from love.

Schedule a consultation today and implement an sustainable relationship with yourself.

Read More