One pattern I see with struggling businesswomen is trying to create the results they want versus choosing to be committed to creating the results they want.

When we try, we hope and pray we will get the results we want.

We are expecting something or someone will create the results we want.

I see clients who are trying, advocating their responsibility to another author, podcaster, coach, or program to get them the results they want, hopefully.

When they think they will try, any action taken will be taken until something is not working, or until it gets hard, or until they get frustrated or disappointed, or until the results are not happening fast enough, and then they quit taking action.

When they are trying, they are negotiating with themselves or others on what actions need to be taken.

These patterns not only leave them exhausted and fatigued, but they also don’t create massive progress toward the results they want.

Without commitment, my clients will use willpower and force themselves through resistance and emotions to create more of the struggle they are trying to avoid.

I help my clients build their commitment to creating the desired results by becoming the person who can have the results they want.

As they develop commitment, they become emotionally mature and guarantee they will create the results they want

no matter what.

I teach commitment not only creates the life we want but also creates it in less time and energy.

We use commitment to push ourselves and our future selves into the lives and businesses we desire by becoming the future versions of ourselves now.

If you are questioning, but how?

I am here to support you in growing your commitment as you create the fun and juicy life you want. Schedule a consultation call.

Two skills I see missing in busy and struggling businesswomen are focus time and planning time.

They are busy taking random actions, jumping from task to task, or multitasking and diving into unproductive rabbit holes.

Before coaching and learning the skills I teach my clients, I would be busy all day with none to a few finished products to show for it.

I would have worked and been exhausted with nothing important completed to show my hard work.

After coaching and learning the skills I teach, I am more productive without working harder or longer as I not only work to produce a result in the scheduled time, but my productivity level is higher than ever before.

Focus time is time we schedule to allow us to dedicate our full attention to a project or task without distractions.

Planning is where we dedicate time to plan what projects and finished products we want to accomplish by the end of the week.

When both are used on purpose, and we use our highest brains to work, we are more productive because we complete more tasks and get the most critical and complex work completed, thus adding more value for our customers/clients.

More productivity in less time creates more value for our customers, increasing our income and success in less time and effort.

I am here to support you in building the skills of planning and focus time to create your business dreams without working harder or longer than necessary.

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Not thinking or considering our future selves and kicking the "can down the road" for their future self to "fix."

One pattern I see struggling businesswomen repeat is not thinking or considering their future selves and kicking the "can down the road" for their future self to "fix."

It can be something as simple as "I don't feel like it" or more complex as "I don't know what to do, and she can figure it out."

The main issue is not that she will get it done, especially when it's important; she always has.

The issue is we don't set her up to succeed.

We don't give her opportunities to thrive and give her a chance to win.

We don't think about how she will think and feel as she cleans up after us.

I support my clients as they spend time hooking their future selves up and celebrating in advance as their future selves have a beautiful foundation to build on.

We step into feelings like proud, accomplished, and resolved to guarantee our future selves feel them too, by how we set her up to succeed.

When we feel these emotions now, not only do we guarantee our future selves do, but we also guarantee that is the energy we put into the world as we create our dreams.

If you want to learn how to support your current and future self to create what you want, I am here to support you.

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Connecting two thoughts or concepts that are not intended to be connected cause us to work harder

One pattern I see with struggling businesswomen working harder and longer than necessary is connecting two thoughts or concepts that are not intended to be connected.

Our brain loves to connect multiple things in an attempt to create certainty, but sometimes the connections may be inaccurate or connect two things that are not connected.

For example, a businesswoman may get a no from one person, or one person may tell them their price is too high, and the businesswoman may conclude that no one wants to work with them, or everyone thinks their price is too high.

The sample size is too small, and the connection is just an inaccurate conclusion.

I watch them taking a ton of action to try to overcome this conclusion or have their brain gather proof and evidence on how these thoughts are true.

Any evidence gathered will support this inaccurate conclusion versus interpreting the evidence to invalidate the conclusion.

They may also change their niche, price, marketing, or product from this one conclusion when the only problem was what they made it mean.

I support my clients by helping them identify their thoughts and create a conclusion that will serve them in creating what they want to create.

Not only do they stop working harder, but this relationship with connection also impacts their income and goal creation.

If you want my support, I am here for you.

One place I see struggling businesswomen get stuck is making challenges a problem

One place I see struggling businesswomen get stuck is making challenges a problem, not as a lesson and opportunity to learn and grow into the future version of themselves.

When we make challenges a problem, we solve the problem or avoid the problem altogether.

We spend time and energy solving for something we created with our brains and using our brains. As

Einstein famously said, “we cannot solve a problem from the same mind that created them.”

Challenges are lessons here to help us evolve into the leaders and CEOs we want to become.

Challenges are just opportunities to grow our capacity to think, feel and act in a way to create the life and businesses we want.

Challenges are why people hire us or buy our products.

Challenges are part of growing successful businesses and making money.

When in error, we make challenges a problem to be solved or avoided, we keep ourselves in the place we do not want to be.

The more challenges we experience, the more valuable our brain becomes and, thus, the more value we put into the world.

And as business people, the more value we put into the world, the more money we earn.

If you want to grow your capacity to manage challenges, I am here to support you.

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Hard-working struggling businesswomen take a ton of action to allow us to think or feel a certain way.

One pattern I see with hard-working, struggling businesswomen is we take a ton of action to allow ourselves to think or feel a certain way.

If we watched ourselves for a day, we would be impressed by how busy we were.

Our to-do list is full of actions to be taken for our business, or our family, or other people.

The problem is not what we are doing but how we are doing it.

We go to our actions if we need something to change or improve.

We ask ourselves what we can do differently, and the answer is in our actions.

Maybe by adding more actions or doing the actions, we are already doing differently.

The problem is not what we are doing or how we are doing it, but what we think or feel about ourselves and the reasons for doing the actions.

For example, setting a goal to feel worthy and hoping we will feel worthy by achieving it, and then taking action to make us feel worthy.

This has us advocating our feeling of worthiness to something outside us or our actions.

So if we are not creating the goal or the feeling of worthiness from the external thing, our solution is to change the goal or change the actions to create the feeling of worthiness.

My job as our coach is to teach us how to feel worthy and set the goal from the feeling of worthiness; thus, all actions that come are already from the feeling of worthiness.

This method increases the chances of creating the goals we want and has us enjoying the journey as we create our goals.

Any action we take communicates the feeling of worthiness to ourselves and anyone receiving the actions.

Different decisions are made, and if they are different actions, we already come from the energy of worth.

If you are ready to learn how to believe you are already worthy, I have done it and I can help you.

One pattern I notice with struggling businesspeople is that they do not trust their intuition and look for answers to their problems outside them.

One pattern I notice with struggling businesspeople is that they do not trust their intuition and look for answers to their problems outside them.

A client will come to me and ask for a book, podcast, lesson, or guru to help them solve something in their life or business.

When I help them explore the real problem, what the cause of the problem was and what they think the solution may be.

They are always surprised by the cause of the problem, AND the solution was already inside them all along.

They already had the answers to take the next action but did not trust themselves and their intuition.

Do not get me wrong, there is always room for learning more and picking up Pearls of wisdom from others, but finding the solution to the real problem starts with going inside.

Clients will say, “I don’t know,” but when I ask them, “what if you knew?” their creativity and genuineness come out.

I also love to ask my clients, “I wonder what would happen, “ and my client's wisdom, creativity, and genuineness always blow my mind as, most of the time, the fantastic combination was beyond even my educated and creative mind.

So, I wonder what would happen if you believed you already had the solution to your problem?

I wonder where you would spend your time, money, and energy if you trusted your intuition and listened to them carefully for its wisdom.

Schedule a consultation to learn how to tap into your wisdom and intuition

Belief that people reaching out to is the only way to identify if their marketing or their business is working.

One pattern I notice with struggling businesspeople is the belief that people reaching out to them is the only way to identify if their marketing or their business is working.

They expect people to be reaching out to them, calling them, sending them messages or emails, or just telling them they want to work with them as an indication of success.

My response is maybe and maybe not.

Yes, it is nice to get the instant gratification of people telling us that what we are doing is working by telling us.

The problem is we miss that for every person who reaches out, over ten more will not reach out until they are ready to work with us or pay us.

When we only focus on the one who is not reaching out and stop talking to them because we believe our business or marketing is not working, we also stop talking to the ten-plus who are paying attention to us.

Another pearl of wisdom I share with my clients is to go and find their people.

When we are passively waiting for people to reach out to us, and they don’t, we stop marketing or showing up; we miss the many more out there and need to be told why working with you will solve their pain point.

The work is believing that you have the solution to their pain point, finding and telling them that you have the answer to their pain point.

When we passively wait or need them to do the work for us, we work so much harder and longer than necessary, giving our power and belief to individuals who do not have the ability to build our business and marketing for us.

The key is using our time, money, and energy to believe that our people are out there, looking for a solution we have and going to tell them over and over again where they are.

The work is believing in them before they believe in themselves and showing them through our consistent and massive actions until they believe that you can help them and that they can solve their problems with your help.

If you would like to learn how to create belief, especially when you have no evidence to support it, I can help you.

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Making decisive decision regarless of the worst-case scenario

Do you know one of the reasons we avoid making decisive decisions is because we fear the worst-case scenario?

Our brain has already played out the possible worst-case scenario, and it is scared of it.

I help my clients go to the worst-case scenario, and they play it out.

We spend time there and look for all the possible outcomes.

Even in the worst-case scenario, life will still be 50 positive and 50 negative.

When my clients see this, their brains calm down, and they can make a decision and realize that no matter what happens, there is no right or wrong decision, AND if the worst-case scenario plays out, they will still experience life at 50/50.

Without this awareness, my clients take a ton of action trying to find the perfect decision by polling, evaluating, looking at the past, worrying, resisting emotions, etc.

This has them spending time and energy in indecision debt.

When we play out the worst-case scenario, we make decisions faster AND make the decision the best decision.

They can move from trying to decide to deciding AND creating the life and business they want without working harder and longer than necessary.

If you want to learn how to make decisive decisions AND make those decisions the best decisions, I can help you.

I believe everyone gets 100 quarts a day, and we spend it every day just like time.

I love using analogies, and one I use to create a visual for my clients is that we all start our day with 100 quarts of energy.

I believe everyone gets 100 quarts a day, and we spend it every day just like time.

And just like time, how we use it will create our experience of it and how accomplished we feel at the end of the day.

Like time, we can borrow from our future selves by not making decisive decisions today and putting them off for our future selves to solve.

And just like money, we can get into energy debt by putting off what we can do today for tomorrow or borrowing from tomorrow’s energy by how we spend our night and sleep.

Or, just like time, we can use it in ways that have them being spent without a finished product or movement toward our goals.

Benign things like how we approach relationships, people pleasing, having manuals, emotional childhood, emotional manipulation, procrastination, and self-sabotage can deplete our energy bank.

Another way is how we experience emotions; resisting, avoiding, and compounding emotions can impact how we spend the quarts of energy.

When I disclose these patterns to my clients, and they see why they are tired or even burnt out, they

can make lasting changes that impact every area of their lives.

And because how we do one thing is how we do everything, once my clients stop spending their

energy reserves in one relationship, every single relationship, including the one with time, money, their business, and themselves uplevels.

These adjustments have my clients living fuller lives AND creating their goals faster.

Where are you spending your quarts of energy, and what would happen if you invested them for a brighter future?

I can help you.

Buffering in business

As a life coach who coaches businesswomen, I noticed that struggling businesswomen have their own form of buffering.

Buffering is a term used in coaching to describe an action done not to feel “negative” emotions.

We can clearly see buffering when someone overeats not to feel negative emotions and weigh more than they want to or spend money to feel better, creating debt or extra clutter in the home.

In business, the buffering is in the form of taking a ton of non-income producing activity like cleaning the office or inventory, taking another training or reading another book, taking a ton of the same action without evaluating if the action is producing the result we want or even questioning why not, or even spinning in mind-drama and turning the discomfort of growth into drama and blaming.

When a businesswoman is busy blaming the economy, the market, or anything else outside of her, instead of sitting with the uncomfortable emotions AND tweaking her marketing, her product/service, or her presentation and mindset, she is buffering with blame.

Yes, the blame seems necessary, but it advocates responsibility to something outside ourselves instead of feeling the discomfort, taking responsibility, and deciding to do something different.

And just like other forms of buffering, this one has us taking a ton of action and leaves us earning less than we want to earn.

"Back to Basics"

I have always been an accountant at heart, and I studied accounting in High School in Kenya.

I remember the teachers stressing the importance of understanding the debits and the credits and the accounting formula (assets = liabilities + Shareholder’s Equity).

It did not make sense to my young brain why they would harp on such a basic concept.

When I attended the university and took advanced accounting, the professors did the same thing.

I remember classmates complaining, especially since there is computer software that could enter the debits and the credits and spit out reports.

They did not understand why we needed to understand the basics of accounting.

And the professors said it was for us to understand the reports the programs were producing and tell if they were correct as human error happens.

I still did not get it until I worked for an organization and noticed that the income statement was off.

Without understanding the simple debits and credits, we would not have been able to correct a human error.

I say all this because, in business and goal creation, we need to understand the basics to create what we want and, most importantly, recreate what we want.

If we find ourselves with or without the goals we want, do we understand step by step why or why not?

If we have been successful in one area, can we recreate it in another area because we know the basics of how the success was created?

Not understanding or being aware of the basics has too many businesspeople struggling and working harder than necessary.

I help my clients break down the basics, understand them and use them to create what they want.

The bonus is they are not only able to take the basics to other goals; they too can teach others to recreate the any goals.

Tony Robbins says, “Success leaves clues,” and not knowing what the clues have cost us time, money, and success.

If you are ready to “get back to basics” and understand what creates success, I can help you.

“Knowledge is power.”

“Knowledge is power.”

We have all heard this said, which is why most of us have advanced degrees or read a ton of books, listen to a ton of podcasts, etc.

We have seen the effects of knowledge in our lives.

Knowledge took me from being a preschool teacher’s assistant earning $7.50 an hour to graduating with my MBA and earning $30 an hour and now earning over $100 an hour or more as a coach.

Knowledge took my family from living paycheck to paycheck to actively working on our inheritance and legacy.

Knowledge is powerful, AND just like anything else in the world, it too has gets to a point of diminishing return.

I see my clients struggling to grow their businesses and up-leveling their lives spinning in the knowledge cycle, gaining more knowledge, signing up for more programs, reading more books, listening to more podcasts, etc. AND missing that knowledge without action will not create the results they want.

Knowing what to do AND not taking action costs us time, money, and energy.

The knowledge we acquire is only as effective or impactful as the actions they inspire.

Going past the uncomfortable emotions to take the actions that will create the desired results and taking the challenging and uncomfortable actions that suck, to reap the rewards on the other end by what is created.

OR just by upleveling and becoming the person who can take inspired action.

More knowledge will only go so far if we are unwilling to process the disappointment of trying to do something and not getting the desired result.

More knowledge will not help us decide which path to take when there are no guarantees on the other end, except maybe growth and evolution.

So yes, knowledge is power, AND applied knowledge is even more powerful.

Creating the result, we want with the knowledge is even more rewarding.

If you have a ton of knowledge BUT don’t have the results from the knowledge, I can help you.

I help my clients identify what is between them and the life and business they know they can have AND overcome that to take them to where they have the wisdom from becoming the person who has applied all the fantastic wisdom they have gathered.

What do you want?

What do you want?

What do you want in your life?

What do you want to create if you allow yourself to feel the shame or guilt that comes after you admit you want it?

Looking past the shame or guilt that others may not or cannot have what you want?

What would you admit you want?

This honesty is brutal for most of us to acknowledge.

We hide or shy away from admitting we want things and stop when we encounter shame or guilt.

Be it from our thoughts or what we think others will think about our wants.

We are allowed to want what we want AND have what we want to.

The feelings are based on what we make our desires mean.

Our emotions come from our thoughts and never from our wants.

Our wants are neutral and bring some people shame and guilt AND other people pride and enjoyment because it is never the wants that drive our feeling.

When we miss what creates our feelings AND we can want what we want, we work harder and longer than necessary.

If you are ready to admit to yourself that you want what you want AND create what you want without working harder or longer than necessary, I can help you.

A pattern I see that costs my clients and me time, money and success is doing things for others they can do for themselves.

A pattern I see that costs my clients and me time, money and success is doing things for others they can do for themselves.

One of my patterns used to be I believed I could just quickly do it.

I believed it was just easier or faster if I just did it.

At that point, it made sense to just get it over with and move on to the next thing.

The problem was that the person I was “just doing it for” never learned how to do it for themselves and needed me in the future to “just do it for them” again.

Also, as I was “doing it for them, " my work and responsibilities’ were not getting done or getting the attention required to get it done to the best of my abilities.

At the end of the day, I could say I accomplished a lot, but it was never my best work OR for the highest good for all involved and our futures.

The other problem was that as I moved up in leadership or responsibilities, I was spending time doing things that others were better skilled at and not focusing on higher income-producing activities.

Some of the growth I required was to learn how to delegate, teach others how to do for themselves, or even allow others to fail to grow.

I had to be uncomfortable, allowing others to be uncomfortable and tap into their creativity to get things done.

Sometimes I was amazed and impressed by the creativity of the other people.

Most importantly, when I gave myself enough brain space, creativity, and time to finish my work, the finished products were of better and higher value.

Thus creating more of the results I wanted without working longer or harder than necessary.

Not honoring our word to ourselves erodes our relationship with ourselves and costs us time, money, and success.

Not honoring our word to ourselves erodes our relationship with ourselves and costs us time, money, and success. Sometimes we may think no one will know, but WE will know.

We always know when we said we would do something for ourselves, AND we know when we are not holding up our end of the deal.

This also shows up when we build a business, lose weight, build a retirement, etc., because how we do one thing is how we do everything.

I noticed my clients who struggle to create our dreams had one thing in common: not keeping our word to ourselves.

We say we will do XYZ on Monday, and come Monday, and we don’t do what we said we would.

However, if we told Susie Q we would do XYZ on Monday for her, we would be there no matter what.

This pattern communicates that we are not as important as Susie Q, that our relationship with ourselves does not matter as much as the relationship with Susie, and that our respect and trust in ourselves do not matter as much.

These tiny little cuts into our relationship with ourselves significantly impact our self-trust, self-respect, and self-love.

The interesting thing is when we start honoring our word to ourselves and know beyond a reason of doubt, we will keep our word to ourselves, we still keep our words to others, but because we love ourselves too much and would not agree to meet or do anything for Susie Q that we are not in alignment with.

The stronger our self-trust, the more people can trust us.

The additional bonus is my clients start creating more of the dreams they want, including stronger relationships with themselves and others.

If you are ready to learn how to honor your word to yourself while creating the life and business of your dreams without working harder or longer, I can help you.

How many times do we have to pay for the same mistake?

How many times do we have to pay for the same mistake?

Our answer to this question will be a tell-tell sign of how hard we work to create our dreams.

As a child, I punished myself multiple times for the same offense; once, when I realized I had messed up, I confessed and was punished, and in the future, I reminded myself that I messed up in the hopes of not repeating the mistake.

I took this pattern into adulthood and punished myself multiple times for the same offense.

The irony is that this pattern did not reduce the offenses, just my self-trust and my relationship with myself.

As I progressed in my personal development journey, my mentors kept showing me the pattern and how it was costing me my enjoyment of my current life.

Punishing myself for the same offense slowed me down and eroded the one relationship I wanted the most; my desire to trust me unconditionally.

Of course, this pattern was reflected on the people in my life, but that is a story for another day.

I started noticing the cost of this pattern, and my goal is to eventually not punish myself; I will admit I still punish myself, but only once—one offense, one punishment.

Without the constant beatdown and increased self-trust, I can make mistakes, forgive myself faster and move on to other things.

I have noticed my level of self-trust has increased, and so has the trust I have with the people in my life.

How many times do you have to pay for the same mistake?

Even one less beatdown can help you achieve your dreams faster without working harder or longer than necessary.

Confidence is something so many people want.

Confidence is something so many people want.

Confidence feels good and drives so much amazingness.

Unfortunately, most people do not know how to create confidence and are looking to things, people or places outside them to create confidence for them.

Confidence is 100% an inside job.

Of course, things can be created on the outside that will enhance the feeling of confidence, but the original spark of faith comes from inside you by how you think.

I teach my clients how to cultivate confidence inside them and how to become the confident person who goes out into the world and creates more confidence.

Everything we want starts from inside us and cannot be created from outside us.

Confidence is created by a belief that the worst thing that can happen is an emotion, we are willing to feel any emotion, no matter what, we will figure things out and we will have our back through it all.

From these beliefs, we show up feeling confident, which fuels all our actions and inaction.

From these beliefs, we show up confidently no matter what is happening around or if we have the results we are looking for.

When we seek confidence from outside us, confidence depends on the results and falters based on the results.

True confidence keeps us going before and especially after the results are there.

True confidence has you falling and getting back up and going back to action because you have your own back.

True confidence has you trusting yourself even if you did not show up as powerful as you could have, and is what has you creating awareness and deciding how to show up differently next time.

True confidence is a gift you get to give yourself.

Confidence is how we get twice as much done in half the time and achieve our biggest dreams.

Ready to learn how to create confidence anytime you need it? Schedule a consultation call.

I love the analogy of thoughts being like rocks in bags.

I love the analogy of thoughts being like rocks in bags.

I use this analogy, especially when I teach my clients how they are working harder and longer to create the results they want.

And just because we can carry heavy loads does not mean we have to.

My clients will come to me and use terms like “I feel heavy, or it feels heavy,” “I just feel pulled down,” or “I have a weight on my shoulders.”

I visualize the things weighing them down as bags full of rocks.

My clients will be walking up the steep hills but carrying the extra weight on their shoulders.

Coaching with me is like identifying what the rocks are and deciding to give them back or drop them.

The hike up the hill is challenging enough.

We can benefit from dropping the extra heavyweight—for example, a client who caters her life and business actions to other people's opinions. Every opinion is a rock. Before they can take a step like a post on social media, they need to evaluate each post based on all the opinions. By the time they post, they have picked up each rock, analyzed it, evaluated it, and decided how the post will impact all the opinions.

When we decide to give everyone their rocks back, we can just decide we want to post something like our reason and allow everyone to deal with the extra weight of their rocks.

When given their rocks/opinions back, most people drop them because they do not like the excess weight.

AND when we give them their rocks back, they drop them as they don’t want to be carrying them either.

AS my clients move closer to their goals, their bags get lighter, and it’s normal for my clients to set bigger goals as they see how amazing and strong, they always have been.

If you are ready to learn how you are working harder and longer than necessary to make your dreams come true, I can help you.

“what if I love myself too much and I don’t want to take action?”

When I teach my clients the power of using love, kindness, and compassion to take action and create their goals, the most common question I get is, “what if I love myself too much and I don’t want to take action?”

Currently, my clients will be using force or negative reinforcement to take the action they desire, and it leaves them exhausted, depleted, and sometimes burnt out.

My answer is always to have them think of a person or thing they love and how motivated they are from love.

For example, a client will work longer hours or take on more assignments to pay for extracurricular activities for their child because they love watching their child participate in the activities.

Or a client who will work a job they don’t particularly enjoy because they love the privilege of what the job provides them, like food, shelter, and clothing.

Love inspires us to do things we would not typically want to do.

Love is a powerful emotion, and it taps into our creativity.

Love will have us do uncomfortable and challenging things just to experience more of the beautiful feeling.

Spend time feeling love and ask yourself, “what would love do?”.

Think of how hard you will work for someone you love and who is kind to you.

Why would it be different when it comes to ourselves?

Spend time gathering proof and evidence of things you have done, sometimes moving mountains for love.

Think of times you have even worked harder for love and how rewarding it was.

When I started keeping track of things I did from love, I noticed I worked hard but never felt exhausted.

I walk miles for my dogs because I love them and love watching them sleep when they are drained.

I went to school for my master's because I made more money to pay for my daughter's dance and loved watching her on stage dancing her heart out or loved hearing how proud she was of herself after learning a hard move.

I paid for sports for my sons because I loved sitting at the dining room table and hearing them talk sports with their father or watching them on the field or mat, pushing themselves to do things they once thought were impossible.

The same applies to us; we can get to impossible things from the feeling of love.

Spend the next week asking yourself, “what would love do?” and keep track of the amazing creativity and inspiration that comes from love.

Ready to learn more ways we can take the actions we always wanted and create the business of our dreams without experiencing exhaustion or burnout? I can help you.