labels and how they stop us from growing and becoming the best versions of ourselves.

Let’s talk about how culturally we use labels and how they stop us from growing and becoming the best versions of ourselves.

My clients will come to me and have a ton of labels; I am a quitter, I bring shame to my family, I am not enough, I chase the shiny object, I am not smart, and the list goes on and on.

When we accept the label, the problem is that it becomes our default operating manual.

It becomes how we show up in the world.

It has us giving up the responsibility of creating the life and business of our dreams.

It takes away our power to create something different in the world.

For example, if we label ourselves as a quitter and things get hard, or we experience the ups and downs of life, we default and quit.

We just accept it as who we are and reinforce that label versus someone who believes, sometimes they take the action of quitting.

They not only see the times they did not quit but also gather evidence of times they kept showing up no matter what.

They also have options, and the decision to quit was not taken lightly.

If they do quit, it was because it was a choice they made and they liked their reason.

My advice for my clients is always to clean up their labels and not to pigeonhole themselves into labels.

I show them the power of choosing who they want to be and how that evolves over time.

The more my clients drop their labels, the more empowered they are to take massive action and create the results they want without working harder or longer.

One of the ways my clients work so much harder than they need to is their fear and avoidance of feeling emotions.

One of the ways my clients work so much harder than they need to is their fear and avoidance of feeling emotions.

Let us talk about a hypothetical client Susy.

Susy has experienced negative emotions in her childhood, sometimes from trauma or sometimes from the stories she told herself as a child.

The feelings were painful, and she created a protection structure to protect her from feeling or experiencing negative emotions.

This protection structure has worked for years and has kept her safe.

The problem comes because this protection structure makes her work harder and is exhausting, so she has a limited amount of energy and bandwidth left over after a regular day.

Susy has a desire to build a successful business and has a vision of the long time impact of the business on her children and the lifestyle it will afford her.

She approaches marketing her business and is taking the actions and is not getting the results she wants because she needs to be creative, think about her client, and visualize her client's pain points and the before and after effects of working with Susy.

It sounds simple when you have brain space and the capacity to be creative, but remember, Susy does not have that energy available to her after just surviving to get the basics done daily.

She is working hard not to experience negative emotions that her bandwidth is low, and really spending time in her client's brain and thinking creatively is exhausting.

My goal as her coach is to retrain her brain to accept and feel negative emotions.

To process the stories that caused the negative emotions and the process her default brain goes through when negative emotions happen.

This new pattern gives her back brain space, energy, and bandwidth to be creative and spend more time and energy on her ideal client and how to help them solve their problems.

This gives her back power and bandwidth to create the results she wants in her business and take care of herself and her family.

She can think creatively and implement systems and processes that create fantastic results while saving her even more, time and energy.  

She can make more money without working harder and longer, but she can also create a solid foundation for this to be her new normal.

She creates a system to create so much more in her life and live the life she dreamed of.

If you like Susy, have a dream and struggle, I can help you. Schedule a consultation call.

The energy we use to take action will result in results or exhaustion

My clients will tell me they are exhausted because of what they are doing.

They list the things they did as evidence of why they are exhausted.

I always question the thought and think of times they have done the same amount of things and felt energized.

They always have an example, and the difference is how they were thinking and feeling about the actions.

One person can go to the gym, not want to do it, tell themselves a ton of stories about why they don't belong at the gym or why gyms don't work.

And another person can go to the gym to do it by loving themselves, their body, and the healthy body they are creating.

We will be able to see the difference in the number of reps, the speed of transition, or even the number of breaks or distractions allowed.

Both may do the same workout, but only one will feel energized because of the thoughts and feelings they used to take a ton of actions.

So if you are exhausted, look at the thoughts and feelings you are using to take the actions.

It may be coming from scarcity, force, or wanting to avoid something.

Sometimes it's thinking there will be better than here, but forgetting we will never arrive at a place where we will not have a whole human experience.

When we clean up the energy we take action from, my clients and I create more in the world and make more money without working harder or longer.

If you are interested in changing the fuel you use to take action; I can help you. Schedule a consultation session and learn identify the energy/fuel you are using to take action.

Are you costing yourself time, money and success?

One way that we cost ourselves time and money, is by spinning in confusion because we discounted ourselves.

This looks like; not believing that WE can have what we want but still kinda putting something out into the world to prove that we were right.

The actions are there, but just to tick the box and then say “see I told you, I cannot have it or I am not good enough.”

Sometimes the action yields a result, but we dismiss it because it was a fluke “it was not supposed to happen.”

Then we discount what we created and spin even more in confusion.

The result is we take even less action or stop working in our business because we need the story “we are not good enough.”

The action or the results will only have us digging our heels in to prove that thought and prove ourselves right.

The key is to question that story.

Why did we need to believe “we are not good enough?”.

Why did we decide that was true, and now we are just gathering proof and evidence for it?

Can we honor that once-needed story but decide it's not required anymore?

Can we accept that the story served us, but it is now hurting us?

We are enough and have always been enough.

Just because we were once mistaken does not mean we have to keep that story.

It was a thought error that once served us, but is now hurting us.

I help my clients see this pattern and choose on purpose what they are going to think about themselves in the future.

If you are exhausted with this ineffective cycle, I can help you. Schedule a consultation call and learn how you are costing you time and money.

Are you making it harder for you to make money?

Are you making it harder for you to make money?

If you don’t have the results you want, you may make it harder to make money.

Here are some ways I see my clients (with me being my number one client) make it harder to make money.

1. Perfection. Thinking everything should be perfect before they put themselves out in the world. They rewrite and edit what they are saying to ensure it is excellent and no one gets offended, especially the grammar police.

2. People-pleasing. We need everyone to be happy with us or what we say. We freak out when we have a person unsubscribe or leave our group and make it mean something about us, OR we want to say the right, polite, and kind thing to the people who will never be our clients OR worse yet tailor or business and marketing to please the person who has an opinion. Yeah, they will be happy, but do you know who will be unhappy? The person you can help who is struggling with the thing you can help them solve.

3. Hiding and making it hard for our customers to find us. We are hiding in groups, in our homes, and behind being friendly and polite and not telling our customers how they are struggling and how we can help them.

4. Being indecisive and not making effective business decisions. The longer we are indecisive, the longer we go without serving and supporting our people to solve their problems.

5. Signing up for programs and not doing the uncomfortable work or not using them to get the results you signed up for.

6. Not creating awareness of the energy we are using to take action. We are using things like shame and guilt as a motivator. We beat ourselves up, hoping that we would be uncomfortable enough to create change. The problem is we rob ourselves of happiness and enjoyment in the present for the desire for a future that will be better, but we are only hurting ourselves and slowing us down from creating the results we want.

All these patterns seem necessary and essential, but it costs us the money we want to make. Cleaning up even one process is like taking the break off and moving the money train faster.

If you are ready to end the cycle making it harder for you to make money, I can help you. Schedule a consultation session.

6 Relationship tips I used to make more money without working harder or longer

Our relationship with our business is just like any other relationship and can be changed by only one person changing.

I have been in business in one form or another for 25 years, AND I have been married for 25 years.

Below are some problems we experience in relationships and how I have chosen to approach them to create a loving and close relationship.

1. We are blaming the other for how we are feeling. This looks like blaming our spouse for our feeling versus taking full responsibility for our emotions based on what they said or did. When we take full responsibility AND drop the blame, we drop a ton of resentment. We get to see what clear boundaries are and how we will honor our boundaries. In business, we blame our company for things it cannot do; for example, you want 20 clients, take full responsibility and make it happen.

2. Expecting the other person to do it perfectly, judging them against the expectations and missing who they are and what they are doing. I am a recovering perfectionist, and I used to expect me, my spouse, and my business to be perfect, AND none were meeting the high manuals, and I was frustrated. As I have become aware, I accept our human flaws, admit our weaknesses, and acknowledge when we are doing the best we can with the information we have. In business, assuming it will meet me where I am, every time I step up, it does too. (I am so fortunate to have the same blessing with my husband).

3. I was telling lies to myself, my spouse, or my business. White little lies will not hurt anyone but cause pain and resentment. Lies block the abundance and intimacy we experience. In business, it can be a small lie like not following through on what you said you would do or not honoring your end of the agreement because it’s so small no one will notice, BUT it adds up and becomes the norm.

4. People-pleasing. My mentor tells people-pleasers are liars. As a recovering people pleaser, I would lie and think if I did this, then the other party should do what I wanted them to do. I was not honoring myself, and the other parties did not know what I wanted as I was not being honest with myself. When I dropped the people-pleasing and the secret if I do this, then you should do that, I was real, and they knew what I was expecting clearly, and they met me where I was. In business, we lie to ourselves and do things, like I want a professional income, but I work 10 to 20 hours, not evaluate and adjust and show up as a professional. Or we show up and excepting our business to be a certain way or believe if I do that you should, yet we don't have the systems in place for it to meet us.

5. Expecting others to do what we are not willing to do. This one was a big one. I expected them to change, do the heavy lifting, create comfort and safety for me, ALL while I was not doing it for them or me. “If it's so easy for them, why don't you do it first” was what my mentor told me once. If it is so easy for them to accept your goals, dreams, and new you, are you getting that they are not comfortable with the change and lack of security of business? Are you expecting your business to do something that you are unwilling to do? Say it provide customers while sitting on the couch? If it's so easy, why don't you do it and see what happens?

6. We are expecting others to be different from they are. This one is a collection of all those mentioned above BUT needs to be discussed again. When we think others should be different, we cannot love, accept, acknowledge or appreciate them for WHO they are. We don't see them for them and miss how amazing they already are. We love them for them and hopefully not for who we think they should be. In business, when we love it because one day it will be a big business that provides us a high income, we don't love and care for it at the different stages and when it needs more from us.

The above is hard, but very easy when we accept any relationship to grow, we get the honor of doing the work first and leading the way.

The more effective we become in relationships, the more we become, and we can take it to any relationship or business we want.

These are skills and can be built over time. Every time I uplevel my skills, my experiences, and results uplevel as well.

Schedule a consultation call and start making more money in less time and energy while enjoying your relationships.

Let's talk about the brain and how it loves repeating the old programmed pattern even though those patterns are hurting us.

Let's talk about the brain and how it loves repeating the old programmed pattern even though those patterns are hurting us.

My brain used to do something and, like a forensic detective, go down a rabbit hole seeking proof and evidence to keep my stories.

I would find or create the evidence to keep a story that no longer served me or helped me move forward.

I kept finding my brain trying to sell me the stories, and after years and all the mounting evidence against the story, I am finally done with the fight.

My brain as a child believed I hurt people by doing the things I did. Just being myself was hurting people.

Somewhere along the journey I started to lie to myself and others, to not hurt them.

I would feel angry or hurt, and I would bottle it up, lie to myself, so I would not be the catalyst to hurting people, and the truth, in my mind, hurt people.

My most common phrase now seems to be, I need that story because; I don't want to be angry; I don't want to hate them, I don't want to be heartbroken.

But to keep the story, I am internalizing the anger, the hate, and the heartbreak by using them against myself, AND I'm done with that pattern.

So now I find these stories, I am choosing to feel the anger, which is normally covering sadness or scared, feel the hate which is covering the fear of not being loved and just wanting to be loved, and heartbreak which is covering the sadness and loneliness my little self felt as she missed her mom.

So, I needed the stories as a little girl and emotions are imprinted in our bodies at the time we experience them, so my brain was recalling them from the scared little girl’s perspective.

Now, as a life coach, with all the tools and support I have, when I find those stories, I used to need, I can let them go, feel the emotion at my 46-year-old skill and create a new pattern for me.

My fear was I would “take it out on people,” but I am noticing I have so much love and compassion for humans as our brains do the same thing and try to protect us, but in a way that causes more hurt and distractions.

Our brains are running a primitive computer program; as the original apple, while we have evolved and running IOS14, but it's 100s of years worse.

As a life coach, I help my clients run the most recent brain programs and every aspect of our lives up level.

Every relationship, including the one with ourselves and our business, improves and the result is how many people we help.

I am the life coach for businesswomen, and I help them clean up their minds so they can make more money without working any harder or longer.

What if the way we have solved our discomfort in the past is the cause of the current pain we are experiencing?

What if the way we have solved our discomfort in the past is the cause of the current pain we are experiencing?

We are stuck in our business.

We have made the same amount year after year.

No matter what we try, we still make the same last year as the year before.

Which examples below do we see ourselves?

1. We think the solution is we don’t know how to make more money, so we go gather more knowledge. Read another book, signup for another training, listen to another podcast or freebie. We still seem to create the same results year after year, which leaves us even more frustrated with all the knowledge.

2. We think the solution is to take more action. Suppose we doubled our marketing or sales calls. If we could have more eyeballs on our product or service, we would create more money. So we gather more knowledge on how to do that and take action, but it does not move the needle, and it leaves us overwhelmed with all the things to do.

3. We think the solution is working longer hours. If we just worked more hours, we would get more done and thus make more money. But the long hours only leave us exhausted and maybe even burnt out as self-care was replaced by working.

4. We think the solution is just working harder and becoming more productive. So we try to do more in less time. We create a long to-do list, sit down and knock them out, but no matter how many things we complete, the list does not get smaller as there are always things to add to the list.

5. We think the solution is to outsource or hire someone to do what we could not do. So we hire someone, and now there is a need to find the right candidate, hire them, train them and manage them, earn enough for our expenses and their wages, and all on top of what we are doing—leading to even more frustration, overwhelm, and exhaustion.

6. We think we are in the wrong industry and need to change industries. But have a hard time breaking into the new industry or become successful and experience the exact same emotions as the last industry, so our only solution is to change industries again; get a job, start another business, look for the latest and hottest products, or service to where people are killing it. We then start from scratch and feel overwhelmed and frustrated with all new things to learn and the same challenges.

The solution to all this is not what tradition teaches us but to manage the way we think and feel about them.

To see our current thoughts and beliefs and replace them with intentional thoughts that will have us look at the cause of the original problem in a new light.

Once we change our perception and thoughts, we can decide what to do from a clear place.

We have logical and creative ways of looking at the problem; we can organize the problem and the solution into a prioritized system that fuels more of the actions that will help us create more money in less time and energy.

I help my clients make more money without working longer and harder by creating a more effective solution to common problems.

Once my clients learn the simple system I teach, they take this system into other areas of their business and life and create more results.

Schedule a consultation call and learn how to solve for business discomfort in a different way

One emotion and pattern I see with struggling businesswomen costing them the energy to make money is that they feel trapped

One emotion and pattern I see with struggling businesswomen costing them the energy to make money is that they feel trapped in their current outcomes and think “they don’t know how to get out.”

They are in a hurry to get out and feel panicky, which does not fuel any productive or income-generating activity.

When we think, we are confined to our current outcomes; money, customers, time, etc., and we are in a hurry to get out or change the outcomes, we miss the reason we are there in the first place which gives us the solution to move forward to make the effects of all our hard work fruitful.

We stay spinning and doing the same thing that got us trapped in the first place, resulting in us feeling even more trapped.

Unfortunately, more knowledge and information without organizing it to get the results we want is like buying more clothes because we cannot find the ones under the pile and create even more disorganization, frustration, and confinement.

More clothes are the metaphor for more knowledge and information; another book, podcast, training, tactic, or even degree.

The solution is to create a system to organize our clothes and identify which clothes we need to keep, get rid of, and maybe purchase.

I help my clients solve for the cause of the feeling of being trapped, organize and prioritize what they have, and use it to create the money they want without working any harder or longer.

They stop feeling trapped and feel liberated to make more of their dreams.

If you are ready to make more money without working harder or longer, I can help you. Schedule a complementary consultation session.

Creating more clients by being interesting in marketing.

Three of my clients have asked to be coached on a similar thing: creating more clients by being interesting in their marketing.

Society teaches us that interesting is the flashy influencers type of posts that will be the key to drawing people in.

Or the lifestyle of the rich and the famous that make people interested.

Or worse, the shock and awe tactics used by the media or bait and switch companies.

They believed they had to use these techniques and thought that their marketing would not work Or any reach they were having was not good enough.

They were feeling ineffective and insecure with what they were currently doing.

They compare themselves to other people in their industry and on social media.

They hide and mute their messages and how they could help their people.

They played small and left so many people unserved, thus not earning what they could earn.

There are a few problems with this type of thinking.  

1. What inspires people to hire us and work with us is our belief we can help them. When we believe we can help them, we inspire them to take action. We show them how we can help them understand the value of working with us. When we focus on ourselves and do not believe we can help our people, we mute how to help them and blend into the background.

2. These tactics may capture our people’s attention. Still, marketing and serving our people go beyond the first attention to retaining the attention to move along our marketing to becoming our paid customers and keeping them as customers. When we show up authentically, and in service, we add value to the lives of the people we serve, which goes beyond any marketing tactic.

3. When we are spending time on our images or posts, we miss that we are here to serve our people in our new and different way. We forget to spend time on the solution they are looking for and show them we can help them by actually helping them.

4. When we are comparing and feeling ineffective, we miss that all we need to do is show the people we want to help that our way works and creates results; the reason they are looking for the solution in the first place. When we give them something that works, they will have results in their lives and want to work with us for more results.

5. When we spend time learning the latest tricks and tactics, we are not spending time clarifying our message and to whom we are talking. We spend time just trying new things instead of evaluating what we are currently doing and its effectiveness. The clearer we become, the more our person sees us, gets interested in us, gets mini results, and eventually hires us to solve their main problem.

I help my clients make more money in less time and energy by creating systems in their business that work and create the results they want.

If you are ready to make money by spending your time in activities that make money, I can help you.

Let us schedule a consultation session.

How persistent are you?

How persistent are you?

How many times are you willing to hear a no?

Do you stop at the first no or keep going until you hear the yes?

The more no’s you are willing to hear will increase the number of yes’s you will hear.

The first no we hear, is just the individuals gut reaction.

Unfortunately, too many amazing women are living lives of mediocrity, earning less than they could because they stop at the first no.

And if WE stop at that no, we miss the valuable information available AND the opportunity to serve our person.

The best place to go when we hear a no is to ask different questions.

This creates awareness of why we heard the no and what who we can evolve into from here.

This shows us what we missed to show them or where we need to go/become to hear the yes.

Studies after studies show that the successful go beyond the first no and sometimes even 5 no’s.

The key is not what to do, but how to think and feel by managing our minds to ask the questions to get to the yes.

I help women use their most significant asset, their minds, to create more money in less time and energy.

We do this by hearing the no and asking questions, learning from the experience and adjusting the next presentation or sales event.

If you want to create more money in less time, send me a private message and let's schedule a consultation call.

Reason why you may be struggling in Marketing, business or making money

I hear people saying that they are not good at marketing or business or good at making money.

I show my clients that it may seem true when they think these thoughts or any variations.

We may have all the evidence to prove them true, but these thoughts are why they do not have the results they want.

I teach my clients thinking these thoughts are 100% optional, and if we look for proof and evidence for the opposite, we may surprise ourselves.

I ask my clients how the thoughts are “ I am not good” are not true.

It usually requires them to think, but once their brains work, they give me a long list of how they are already good at marketing or business or making money.

I am always impressed by the way things are already working.

What if you decided to believe you were good at marketing, business, or making money?

People will say, but I cannot make things up.

And I show them the evidence their brains came up for and against the beliefs.

How can both be true?

We just decide which one we want and which one we want to believe.

Either way, we will be wrong 50% of the time, so why not gather proof and evidence of how amazing you already are.

This is how my clients make more money in less time and energy by believing in the amazingness that is already inside them, and we allow it to come out.

If you are ready to believe in yourself more and make more money, I can help you.

Please schedule a discovery call.

I cannot wait to coach you.

You Don’t Have a Procrastination Problem — You Have a Self-Trust Problem

🌿 The Myth of Procrastination

My dear, a client once came to me certain she had a procrastination problem.

She told me, “If I could just stop procrastinating, I’d finally hit my income goal.”

She believed her success was waiting on the other side of more discipline, more structure, or more motivation. She could clearly picture the version of herself who didn’t delay — productive, consistent, hitting her goals with ease.

But when we looked deeper, what she called procrastination wasn’t laziness or lack of drive.
It was fear of her own reactions.

She wasn’t avoiding the work — she was avoiding the self-criticism she expected afterward.

💔 The Cycle That Keeps You Stuck

Here’s what was really happening:

She was afraid of what she’d say to herself no matter the outcome.

If she took action and succeeded, she’d think:

“You should have done this sooner.”
“You always overthink things.”
“You never move fast enough.”

If she took action and failed, she’d think:

“See, you’re not good enough.”
“You shouldn’t have tried.”
“This is why you’ll never get ahead.”

Her brain learned something painful but logical:

If I’m going to get beaten up either way, why even try?

So she didn’t have a procrastination issue — she had a self-safety issue.
Her brain was protecting her from herself.

💫 The Real Solution

When she saw this pattern, everything changed.

She decided to start having her own back — no matter what.

She told herself, “As long as I take action, I’m doing the best I can with what I know right now.”

She stopped measuring her worth by her results and started measuring her courage by her willingness to show up.

And the more she did, the more trust she built — and the easier action became.

Now, she’s creating consistent results, not because she fixed procrastination, but because she fixed the relationship that created it.

💭 3 Awareness Questions

1. What would change if you trusted yourself to handle success and failure with compassion instead of criticism?

2. How often do you delay action because you’re afraid of your own reaction?

3. What would it look like to take action knowing you’ll have your back no matter the outcome?

🌸 3 Quick Wins

1. Catch the Critic: When your inner voice says, “You should have done this sooner,” pause and reframe it to, “I’m proud I’m doing it now.”

2. Celebrate the Effort: After every action — no matter how small — tell yourself one kind truth about what it took to do it.

3. Anchor in Safety: Each morning, remind yourself: “I am safe to try. I am safe to succeed. I am safe to learn.”

✨ The Shift That Creates Results

When you stop attacking yourself, your energy stops hiding.
You stop procrastinating, not because you’re more disciplined, but because you finally feel safe to move forward.

That’s when creativity returns.
That’s when courage grows.
That’s when results multiply.

If you’ve been stuck in cycles of procrastination or self-doubt, it’s not that you don’t know what to do — it’s that you don’t feel safe doing it.

👉 Take my free quiz: What’s Blocking Your Business and Income?
Discover what’s really behind your hesitation and overworking — and learn how to release it so you can lead your business with clarity, confidence, and peace.

Because when you start having your back, you stop holding yourself back. 💛

💣 How Self-Sabotage Quietly Drains Your Income (and What to Do About It)

💭 The Hidden Cost of Self-Sabotage

My dear, when I set one of the biggest goals in my business, something surprising happened — I started sabotaging it.

And not in big, obvious ways.
It showed up in little choices that seemed harmless but added up fast:
✔️ “Just one episode” instead of finishing my project.
✔️ Overcommitting to help others when my plate was already full.
✔️ Staying up late to “get ahead” — and waking up drained.
✔️ Pushing harder instead of pausing to rest or think.

That’s the sneaky thing about self-sabotage: it doesn’t always look like quitting.
Sometimes, it looks like overworking, people-pleasing, or trying to prove your worth.

It’s every habit that keeps you busy but not productive.

⚡ The Real Problem

Self-sabotage is doing things that work against the very goal you said you wanted.
It’s not just procrastination — it’s protection.

Your brain tries to protect you from fear, disappointment, or judgment by creating distractions.
And for many immigrant women, it’s also protecting against cultural conditioning that says:

“Don’t get too big.”
“Stay humble.”
“If you fail, it’ll mean you weren’t ready.”

So, instead of taking bold, income-producing action, you fill your time with safe tasks that feel productive but don’t move the needle.

Over time, this steals your creativity, clarity, and cash flow.

💸 The Financial and Emotional Cost

Every time you buffer with busywork, self-criticism, or perfectionism, you’re not just wasting time — you’re leaking income.

You spend energy on guilt instead of growth.
You stay tired instead of powerful.
And that constant internal battle between what you want and what you fear?
That’s where most overworking begins.

Self-sabotage is expensive — not because of what it costs in hours, but because of what it costs in possibility.

🌿 The Shift That Changes Everything

You don’t fix self-sabotage by forcing more discipline — you fix it by building trust and clarity.

Be clear about what you want and why it matters.
Plan how you’ll move toward it.
Then, when fear shows up (and it will), remind yourself that discomfort is not danger — it’s growth.

The less time you spend spinning in fear and “busy safety,” the more space you create for focus, freedom, and income.

💭 3 Awareness Questions

1. Where do I use busyness or overworking to avoid taking bold, focused action?

2. What do I believe might happen if I actually succeed?

3. How often do I confuse pressure with progress?

🌸 3 Quick Wins

1. Name the Pattern: Write one behavior that pulls you away from your goal — awareness breaks the loop.

2. Anchor in Purpose: Reconnect with your “why” every morning. Remind yourself what the goal truly represents — not just money, but freedom.

3. Choose Calm Focus: When you feel the urge to overdo, pause. Ask, “Is this action aligned with my goal or just keeping me safe?”

✨ The Breakthrough

The real cost of self-sabotage isn’t the time you lose — it’s the peace, confidence, and income you never give yourself the chance to experience.

When you clear the emotional clutter behind your habits, you stop working against yourself — and start creating results with ease.

If you’ve been stuck in patterns of overworking, avoidance, or inconsistency, it’s not a motivation problem — it’s a capacity problem.

👉 Take my free quiz: What’s Blocking Your Business and Income?
Discover what’s really behind your self-sabotage and overworking — and learn how to release it so you can create results that match your effort.

Because your dreams deserve your energy — not your exhaustion. 💛

The biggest income-earning action any business person can take is being their number one best client/customer.

Too many business people expect others to invest in their product or service and yet they don't invest in themselves.

Use 100% of the product or service.

Be an example of what is possible with the product or service.

Be a walking, talking billboard of the possibility of the product or service.

What doubts or disbelief do you have about your product or service?

Why?

What do you need to think, feel or do to overcome them?

What you believe about your product or service will be communicated in how you speak about what you offer.

Have you ever heard someone tell a story about a restaurant they enjoyed and you just had to go to?

Or, they told you about a friend they loved, and you just could not wait to meet that friend too?

The enthusiasm is contagious.

The passion is transferred by the words and tone of the terms and analogies used.

That is the secret to effective marketing and sales.

Take the time to fall in love with your product or service.

I promise it will be worth it.

Overcoming the Terror Barrier: Transform Your Goals with Confidence

The “Terror Barrier” is a term I learned from Bob Proctor. He describes it as “the feeling of fear and anxiety you experience when you are about to push past your comfort zone in a major way.” Some people call it the upper limit or the river of misery.

When I used to encounter the terror barrier while pursuing a big goal, I mistakenly believed it meant I was doing something wrong or that I wasn’t meant to achieve my dream. I thought a real goal should feel beautiful, rosy, and straightforward. This misconception often leads people to change or reduce their goals to something “more reasonable.”

In the past, I tried everything to avoid the discomfort, which only left me feeling frustrated and disappointed with no progress to show for it.

Recently, I had two client calls where both clients were facing their versions of the terror barrier. Their brains were resisting change and growth, suggesting they stop or reduce their goals. The doubt, fear, and worry seemed natural and necessary.

As their coach, my role is to help them understand what is happening, hold space for them as they experience these emotions, guide them in self-talk through the terror barrier, and develop a game plan to achieve their goals.

If we reduce our goals to avoid discomfort, we end up feeling frustrated and unsatisfied, even if we achieve the new, lower goal. If we drop the goal and try to go around it, we still need to face the next level, costing us time, money, and energy.

Going through the terror barrier is the only way. The strategic by-product is that we set even more significant, scarier goals than before.

If you have a big dream and have hit your terror barrier, I can help you. My clients and I have found a more effective way to overcome it, saving time, money, and energy while achieving our goals.

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One of the most common desires my clients come to coaching sessions is the desire to be motivated AND stay motivated.

One of the most common desires my clients come to coaching sessions is the desire to be motivated AND stay motivated.

Some clients think I can say something to motivate them to keep taking action, especially when things are not working out in their business.

In the 20 years I have been in business; I too looked for external things to keep me motivated through the rollercoaster of business.

Over the years, I have used motivational speakers, motivational music, motivational stories, motivational books, podcasts, hope, and wishes.

AND they all lasted for some time but quickly wore off.

I learned that to stay motivated, especially when things are not going as I wanted, I needed to identify why I was going for my goal.

What was my no matter what reason for creating a goal?

What was the innermost desire?

When we think a goal will fix something and the work we are doing towards that goal is not shown externally, our brain decides what we are doing is not working, or the goal is impossible.

AND that is where the external motivation reminds us it is possible.

The shift in my actions and the actions my clients take is when they can generate motivation internally.

They are driven by themselves and can tap into their own motivation regardless of what is happening outside.

The super-motivated have a compelling no matter what reason that motivates them to show up.

The super-motivated have a story and reason they tap into, regardless of what happens.

The magic is in how they think about themselves, their business, their customers, and the gift they have.

This thinking is something that becomes their way of thinking and becomes just who they are.

If you are looking for consistent motivation to create the income and business you want, I can help you.

Think of the long-term impact of the constant action taken from consistent motivation on you, your business, and the people you serve.

Want to create twice as much in half the time?

Want to create twice as much in half the time?

Spend some time focusing on one item or to do at a time.

I used to spend a lot of my time multitasking.

I used to think it was creating more and was being productive. Only to learn it was not helping me be more productive AND it cost me my creativity.

Every time our brain moves from one focus to the next, it reduces our concenration and does not allow us to tap into our brains highest possibility.

Every time our brain moves from one thing to the next, it takes our brain time to adjust and it uses up precious brain energy.

The energy our brains uses to readjust is not spent on really tapping into it's fullest potential.

So now I try not to multitask and focus on one thing at a time.

I have noticed my brain is so much more creative and comes up with ideas and possibilities that we're already in plain sight.

As we focus on one thing at a time, it allows our brain to go into flow, which has our brains tapping into it's fullest capacity and geniuses.

When we finish a task, it gives our brain a sense of accomplishment and motivates it to do more, which also fuels our brain to want to show up for the reward.

When our brain is self-motivated, it's easier to do more, create more, and thus earn more.

So focusing on one thing at a time, can be the difference between hitting more of your goals and becoming the person who can do it over and over again, thus creating more in half the time.

I teach when it's focus time, turn off all distractions, like social media and turn on a timer. Spend time on that one item until time is up OR until the project is done.

I teach to use a timer, to give our brains a break and if the project requires a more extended period. Our brains can only focus entirely for a certain amount of time and thus work with our brains to create more together.

Teach yourself to trust that you will focus and get the project done AND there will be time to have fun after, which is even more enjoyable when the work is done.

If you are ready to create twice as much in half the time, I can help you. Send me a private message, and let's schedule a discovery call.

Brain Waste — The Hidden Cost of Underusing Your Potential

Introduction

“Brain waste.”

That term was originally used to describe the millions of highly educated immigrants working below their qualifications — people with degrees and advanced skills taking lower-wage or low-skill jobs just to survive.

When I first read the statistics, it shook me.
But over the years, I’ve realized “brain waste” doesn’t only happen in traditional employment. It happens in businesses, too.

It happens when capable, educated, experienced women play small, overwork, or stay stuck in survival because they’re operating below their potential — not because they’re not ready, but because their beliefs and conditioning tell them to “stay safe.”

How “Brain Waste” Shows Up in Business

Brain waste happens when you:

• Do everything yourself because asking for help feels uncomfortable.

• Charge less because you fear rejection or judgment.

• Stay busy doing what feels safe instead of what would grow your income.

• Downplay your voice or expertise because you were taught humility means safety.

Many immigrant women were raised to believe that security comes from hard work, education, and keeping the peace — not from owning power, visibility, or leadership.
So even in business, the pattern continues.

We’re working hard, but not creating at the level of our ability.

What We Uncover in Coaching

When I work with immigrant businesswomen, we look beyond strategies and tactics. We uncover:

• Why you’ve accepted your current level of results.

• What patterns of thought, emotion, and action are keeping you there.

• How to unlearn survival habits that no longer serve your goals.

Because when you clear those old patterns, you stop wasting your brilliance on overthinking, overworking, and undercharging.

What Happens When You End “Brain Waste”

Once my clients start releasing the emotional and mental clutter that kept them operating below their potential, they begin to:

• See new possibilities they couldn’t before.

• Create more income with less stress.

• Use their full experience and intelligence to lead with confidence.

They stop surviving.
They start creating.

And they finally live the freedom they came here to build.

Final Word

If you’ve ever felt like your hard work isn’t reflecting your true potential, you might be experiencing brain waste — not in your mind, but in your beliefs.

✨ It’s time to stop underusing your brilliance and start leading with it.

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When I arrive, then......

“When I arrive then....”

I have used this phrase or some version of it for years.

It seemed like an innocent or even sometimes motivating thought.

I did not know how this phrase was actually costing me my happiness in the present moment.

Think about it;

When I arrive then I will be so happy.

It means I will and can only be happy when I arrive.

It means the act of arriving will be better than where I am or the journey I’m on.

It means there, where I have arrived to, is better than the here where I am.

It has me sacrificing my current happiness or joy, for a future where I have arrived.

And what happens when I don’t arrive?

Sadness and suffering.

What happens to this happiness I have been withholding from myself?

What if there or where I have arrived to is still 50% positive and 50% negative?

We feel robbed, because isn’t there supposed to be better?

Isn’t there supposed to be perfect?

Isn’t that why we are going there?

Total mind fuck!!!

One little phrase can cause so much pain and suffering.

What if we stopped using this phrase and decided there is not any better than here?

What if we decided that we are on the journey and the journey is why we are here?

What if we decided that the journey is just as fun as the destination?

What if we have already arrived, because our past self created the life we currently have?

We have arrived!!

Let’s enjoy the hell out where we are!!

Here is a little Secret, there will only be as much fun as here 😉

Have fun my friends, you have arrived!!