6 Relationship tips I used to make more money without working harder or longer

Our relationship with our business is just like any other relationship and can be changed by only one person changing.

I have been in business in one form or another for 25 years, AND I have been married for 25 years.

Below are some problems we experience in relationships and how I have chosen to approach them to create a loving and close relationship.

1. We are blaming the other for how we are feeling. This looks like blaming our spouse for our feeling versus taking full responsibility for our emotions based on what they said or did. When we take full responsibility AND drop the blame, we drop a ton of resentment. We get to see what clear boundaries are and how we will honor our boundaries. In business, we blame our company for things it cannot do; for example, you want 20 clients, take full responsibility and make it happen.

2. Expecting the other person to do it perfectly, judging them against the expectations and missing who they are and what they are doing. I am a recovering perfectionist, and I used to expect me, my spouse, and my business to be perfect, AND none were meeting the high manuals, and I was frustrated. As I have become aware, I accept our human flaws, admit our weaknesses, and acknowledge when we are doing the best we can with the information we have. In business, assuming it will meet me where I am, every time I step up, it does too. (I am so fortunate to have the same blessing with my husband).

3. I was telling lies to myself, my spouse, or my business. White little lies will not hurt anyone but cause pain and resentment. Lies block the abundance and intimacy we experience. In business, it can be a small lie like not following through on what you said you would do or not honoring your end of the agreement because it’s so small no one will notice, BUT it adds up and becomes the norm.

4. People-pleasing. My mentor tells people-pleasers are liars. As a recovering people pleaser, I would lie and think if I did this, then the other party should do what I wanted them to do. I was not honoring myself, and the other parties did not know what I wanted as I was not being honest with myself. When I dropped the people-pleasing and the secret if I do this, then you should do that, I was real, and they knew what I was expecting clearly, and they met me where I was. In business, we lie to ourselves and do things, like I want a professional income, but I work 10 to 20 hours, not evaluate and adjust and show up as a professional. Or we show up and excepting our business to be a certain way or believe if I do that you should, yet we don't have the systems in place for it to meet us.

5. Expecting others to do what we are not willing to do. This one was a big one. I expected them to change, do the heavy lifting, create comfort and safety for me, ALL while I was not doing it for them or me. “If it's so easy for them, why don't you do it first” was what my mentor told me once. If it is so easy for them to accept your goals, dreams, and new you, are you getting that they are not comfortable with the change and lack of security of business? Are you expecting your business to do something that you are unwilling to do? Say it provide customers while sitting on the couch? If it's so easy, why don't you do it and see what happens?

6. We are expecting others to be different from they are. This one is a collection of all those mentioned above BUT needs to be discussed again. When we think others should be different, we cannot love, accept, acknowledge or appreciate them for WHO they are. We don't see them for them and miss how amazing they already are. We love them for them and hopefully not for who we think they should be. In business, when we love it because one day it will be a big business that provides us a high income, we don't love and care for it at the different stages and when it needs more from us.

The above is hard, but very easy when we accept any relationship to grow, we get the honor of doing the work first and leading the way.

The more effective we become in relationships, the more we become, and we can take it to any relationship or business we want.

These are skills and can be built over time. Every time I uplevel my skills, my experiences, and results uplevel as well.

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Let's talk about the brain and how it loves repeating the old programmed pattern even though those patterns are hurting us.

Let's talk about the brain and how it loves repeating the old programmed pattern even though those patterns are hurting us.

My brain used to do something and, like a forensic detective, go down a rabbit hole seeking proof and evidence to keep my stories.

I would find or create the evidence to keep a story that no longer served me or helped me move forward.

I kept finding my brain trying to sell me the stories, and after years and all the mounting evidence against the story, I am finally done with the fight.

My brain as a child believed I hurt people by doing the things I did. Just being myself was hurting people.

Somewhere along the journey I started to lie to myself and others, to not hurt them.

I would feel angry or hurt, and I would bottle it up, lie to myself, so I would not be the catalyst to hurting people, and the truth, in my mind, hurt people.

My most common phrase now seems to be, I need that story because; I don't want to be angry; I don't want to hate them, I don't want to be heartbroken.

But to keep the story, I am internalizing the anger, the hate, and the heartbreak by using them against myself, AND I'm done with that pattern.

So now I find these stories, I am choosing to feel the anger, which is normally covering sadness or scared, feel the hate which is covering the fear of not being loved and just wanting to be loved, and heartbreak which is covering the sadness and loneliness my little self felt as she missed her mom.

So, I needed the stories as a little girl and emotions are imprinted in our bodies at the time we experience them, so my brain was recalling them from the scared little girl’s perspective.

Now, as a life coach, with all the tools and support I have, when I find those stories, I used to need, I can let them go, feel the emotion at my 46-year-old skill and create a new pattern for me.

My fear was I would “take it out on people,” but I am noticing I have so much love and compassion for humans as our brains do the same thing and try to protect us, but in a way that causes more hurt and distractions.

Our brains are running a primitive computer program; as the original apple, while we have evolved and running IOS14, but it's 100s of years worse.

As a life coach, I help my clients run the most recent brain programs and every aspect of our lives up level.

Every relationship, including the one with ourselves and our business, improves and the result is how many people we help.

I am the life coach for businesswomen, and I help them clean up their minds so they can make more money without working any harder or longer.

What if the way we have solved our discomfort in the past is the cause of the current pain we are experiencing?

What if the way we have solved our discomfort in the past is the cause of the current pain we are experiencing?

We are stuck in our business.

We have made the same amount year after year.

No matter what we try, we still make the same last year as the year before.

Which examples below do we see ourselves?

1. We think the solution is we don’t know how to make more money, so we go gather more knowledge. Read another book, signup for another training, listen to another podcast or freebie. We still seem to create the same results year after year, which leaves us even more frustrated with all the knowledge.

2. We think the solution is to take more action. Suppose we doubled our marketing or sales calls. If we could have more eyeballs on our product or service, we would create more money. So we gather more knowledge on how to do that and take action, but it does not move the needle, and it leaves us overwhelmed with all the things to do.

3. We think the solution is working longer hours. If we just worked more hours, we would get more done and thus make more money. But the long hours only leave us exhausted and maybe even burnt out as self-care was replaced by working.

4. We think the solution is just working harder and becoming more productive. So we try to do more in less time. We create a long to-do list, sit down and knock them out, but no matter how many things we complete, the list does not get smaller as there are always things to add to the list.

5. We think the solution is to outsource or hire someone to do what we could not do. So we hire someone, and now there is a need to find the right candidate, hire them, train them and manage them, earn enough for our expenses and their wages, and all on top of what we are doing—leading to even more frustration, overwhelm, and exhaustion.

6. We think we are in the wrong industry and need to change industries. But have a hard time breaking into the new industry or become successful and experience the exact same emotions as the last industry, so our only solution is to change industries again; get a job, start another business, look for the latest and hottest products, or service to where people are killing it. We then start from scratch and feel overwhelmed and frustrated with all new things to learn and the same challenges.

The solution to all this is not what tradition teaches us but to manage the way we think and feel about them.

To see our current thoughts and beliefs and replace them with intentional thoughts that will have us look at the cause of the original problem in a new light.

Once we change our perception and thoughts, we can decide what to do from a clear place.

We have logical and creative ways of looking at the problem; we can organize the problem and the solution into a prioritized system that fuels more of the actions that will help us create more money in less time and energy.

I help my clients make more money without working longer and harder by creating a more effective solution to common problems.

Once my clients learn the simple system I teach, they take this system into other areas of their business and life and create more results.

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One emotion and pattern I see with struggling businesswomen costing them the energy to make money is that they feel trapped

One emotion and pattern I see with struggling businesswomen costing them the energy to make money is that they feel trapped in their current outcomes and think “they don’t know how to get out.”

They are in a hurry to get out and feel panicky, which does not fuel any productive or income-generating activity.

When we think, we are confined to our current outcomes; money, customers, time, etc., and we are in a hurry to get out or change the outcomes, we miss the reason we are there in the first place which gives us the solution to move forward to make the effects of all our hard work fruitful.

We stay spinning and doing the same thing that got us trapped in the first place, resulting in us feeling even more trapped.

Unfortunately, more knowledge and information without organizing it to get the results we want is like buying more clothes because we cannot find the ones under the pile and create even more disorganization, frustration, and confinement.

More clothes are the metaphor for more knowledge and information; another book, podcast, training, tactic, or even degree.

The solution is to create a system to organize our clothes and identify which clothes we need to keep, get rid of, and maybe purchase.

I help my clients solve for the cause of the feeling of being trapped, organize and prioritize what they have, and use it to create the money they want without working any harder or longer.

They stop feeling trapped and feel liberated to make more of their dreams.

If you are ready to make more money without working harder or longer, I can help you. Schedule a complementary consultation session.

Creating more clients by being interesting in marketing.

Three of my clients have asked to be coached on a similar thing: creating more clients by being interesting in their marketing.

Society teaches us that interesting is the flashy influencers type of posts that will be the key to drawing people in.

Or the lifestyle of the rich and the famous that make people interested.

Or worse, the shock and awe tactics used by the media or bait and switch companies.

They believed they had to use these techniques and thought that their marketing would not work Or any reach they were having was not good enough.

They were feeling ineffective and insecure with what they were currently doing.

They compare themselves to other people in their industry and on social media.

They hide and mute their messages and how they could help their people.

They played small and left so many people unserved, thus not earning what they could earn.

There are a few problems with this type of thinking.  

1. What inspires people to hire us and work with us is our belief we can help them. When we believe we can help them, we inspire them to take action. We show them how we can help them understand the value of working with us. When we focus on ourselves and do not believe we can help our people, we mute how to help them and blend into the background.

2. These tactics may capture our people’s attention. Still, marketing and serving our people go beyond the first attention to retaining the attention to move along our marketing to becoming our paid customers and keeping them as customers. When we show up authentically, and in service, we add value to the lives of the people we serve, which goes beyond any marketing tactic.

3. When we are spending time on our images or posts, we miss that we are here to serve our people in our new and different way. We forget to spend time on the solution they are looking for and show them we can help them by actually helping them.

4. When we are comparing and feeling ineffective, we miss that all we need to do is show the people we want to help that our way works and creates results; the reason they are looking for the solution in the first place. When we give them something that works, they will have results in their lives and want to work with us for more results.

5. When we spend time learning the latest tricks and tactics, we are not spending time clarifying our message and to whom we are talking. We spend time just trying new things instead of evaluating what we are currently doing and its effectiveness. The clearer we become, the more our person sees us, gets interested in us, gets mini results, and eventually hires us to solve their main problem.

I help my clients make more money in less time and energy by creating systems in their business that work and create the results they want.

If you are ready to make money by spending your time in activities that make money, I can help you.

Let us schedule a consultation session.

How persistent are you?

How persistent are you?

How many times are you willing to hear a no?

Do you stop at the first no or keep going until you hear the yes?

The more no’s you are willing to hear will increase the number of yes’s you will hear.

The first no we hear, is just the individuals gut reaction.

Unfortunately, too many amazing women are living lives of mediocrity, earning less than they could because they stop at the first no.

And if WE stop at that no, we miss the valuable information available AND the opportunity to serve our person.

The best place to go when we hear a no is to ask different questions.

This creates awareness of why we heard the no and what who we can evolve into from here.

This shows us what we missed to show them or where we need to go/become to hear the yes.

Studies after studies show that the successful go beyond the first no and sometimes even 5 no’s.

The key is not what to do, but how to think and feel by managing our minds to ask the questions to get to the yes.

I help women use their most significant asset, their minds, to create more money in less time and energy.

We do this by hearing the no and asking questions, learning from the experience and adjusting the next presentation or sales event.

If you want to create more money in less time, send me a private message and let's schedule a consultation call.

Reason why you may be struggling in Marketing, business or making money

I hear people saying that they are not good at marketing or business or good at making money.

I show my clients that it may seem true when they think these thoughts or any variations.

We may have all the evidence to prove them true, but these thoughts are why they do not have the results they want.

I teach my clients thinking these thoughts are 100% optional, and if we look for proof and evidence for the opposite, we may surprise ourselves.

I ask my clients how the thoughts are “ I am not good” are not true.

It usually requires them to think, but once their brains work, they give me a long list of how they are already good at marketing or business or making money.

I am always impressed by the way things are already working.

What if you decided to believe you were good at marketing, business, or making money?

People will say, but I cannot make things up.

And I show them the evidence their brains came up for and against the beliefs.

How can both be true?

We just decide which one we want and which one we want to believe.

Either way, we will be wrong 50% of the time, so why not gather proof and evidence of how amazing you already are.

This is how my clients make more money in less time and energy by believing in the amazingness that is already inside them, and we allow it to come out.

If you are ready to believe in yourself more and make more money, I can help you.

Please schedule a discovery call.

I cannot wait to coach you.

You Don’t Have a Procrastination Problem — You Have a Self-Trust Problem

🌿 The Myth of Procrastination

My dear, a client once came to me certain she had a procrastination problem.

She told me, “If I could just stop procrastinating, I’d finally hit my income goal.”

She believed her success was waiting on the other side of more discipline, more structure, or more motivation. She could clearly picture the version of herself who didn’t delay — productive, consistent, hitting her goals with ease.

But when we looked deeper, what she called procrastination wasn’t laziness or lack of drive.
It was fear of her own reactions.

She wasn’t avoiding the work — she was avoiding the self-criticism she expected afterward.

💔 The Cycle That Keeps You Stuck

Here’s what was really happening:

She was afraid of what she’d say to herself no matter the outcome.

If she took action and succeeded, she’d think:

“You should have done this sooner.”
“You always overthink things.”
“You never move fast enough.”

If she took action and failed, she’d think:

“See, you’re not good enough.”
“You shouldn’t have tried.”
“This is why you’ll never get ahead.”

Her brain learned something painful but logical:

If I’m going to get beaten up either way, why even try?

So she didn’t have a procrastination issue — she had a self-safety issue.
Her brain was protecting her from herself.

💫 The Real Solution

When she saw this pattern, everything changed.

She decided to start having her own back — no matter what.

She told herself, “As long as I take action, I’m doing the best I can with what I know right now.”

She stopped measuring her worth by her results and started measuring her courage by her willingness to show up.

And the more she did, the more trust she built — and the easier action became.

Now, she’s creating consistent results, not because she fixed procrastination, but because she fixed the relationship that created it.

💭 3 Awareness Questions

1. What would change if you trusted yourself to handle success and failure with compassion instead of criticism?

2. How often do you delay action because you’re afraid of your own reaction?

3. What would it look like to take action knowing you’ll have your back no matter the outcome?

🌸 3 Quick Wins

1. Catch the Critic: When your inner voice says, “You should have done this sooner,” pause and reframe it to, “I’m proud I’m doing it now.”

2. Celebrate the Effort: After every action — no matter how small — tell yourself one kind truth about what it took to do it.

3. Anchor in Safety: Each morning, remind yourself: “I am safe to try. I am safe to succeed. I am safe to learn.”

✨ The Shift That Creates Results

When you stop attacking yourself, your energy stops hiding.
You stop procrastinating, not because you’re more disciplined, but because you finally feel safe to move forward.

That’s when creativity returns.
That’s when courage grows.
That’s when results multiply.

If you’ve been stuck in cycles of procrastination or self-doubt, it’s not that you don’t know what to do — it’s that you don’t feel safe doing it.

👉 Take my free quiz: What’s Blocking Your Business and Income?
Discover what’s really behind your hesitation and overworking — and learn how to release it so you can lead your business with clarity, confidence, and peace.

Because when you start having your back, you stop holding yourself back. 💛

💣 How Self-Sabotage Quietly Drains Your Income (and What to Do About It)

💭 The Hidden Cost of Self-Sabotage

My dear, when I set one of the biggest goals in my business, something surprising happened — I started sabotaging it.

And not in big, obvious ways.
It showed up in little choices that seemed harmless but added up fast:
✔️ “Just one episode” instead of finishing my project.
✔️ Overcommitting to help others when my plate was already full.
✔️ Staying up late to “get ahead” — and waking up drained.
✔️ Pushing harder instead of pausing to rest or think.

That’s the sneaky thing about self-sabotage: it doesn’t always look like quitting.
Sometimes, it looks like overworking, people-pleasing, or trying to prove your worth.

It’s every habit that keeps you busy but not productive.

⚡ The Real Problem

Self-sabotage is doing things that work against the very goal you said you wanted.
It’s not just procrastination — it’s protection.

Your brain tries to protect you from fear, disappointment, or judgment by creating distractions.
And for many immigrant women, it’s also protecting against cultural conditioning that says:

“Don’t get too big.”
“Stay humble.”
“If you fail, it’ll mean you weren’t ready.”

So, instead of taking bold, income-producing action, you fill your time with safe tasks that feel productive but don’t move the needle.

Over time, this steals your creativity, clarity, and cash flow.

💸 The Financial and Emotional Cost

Every time you buffer with busywork, self-criticism, or perfectionism, you’re not just wasting time — you’re leaking income.

You spend energy on guilt instead of growth.
You stay tired instead of powerful.
And that constant internal battle between what you want and what you fear?
That’s where most overworking begins.

Self-sabotage is expensive — not because of what it costs in hours, but because of what it costs in possibility.

🌿 The Shift That Changes Everything

You don’t fix self-sabotage by forcing more discipline — you fix it by building trust and clarity.

Be clear about what you want and why it matters.
Plan how you’ll move toward it.
Then, when fear shows up (and it will), remind yourself that discomfort is not danger — it’s growth.

The less time you spend spinning in fear and “busy safety,” the more space you create for focus, freedom, and income.

💭 3 Awareness Questions

1. Where do I use busyness or overworking to avoid taking bold, focused action?

2. What do I believe might happen if I actually succeed?

3. How often do I confuse pressure with progress?

🌸 3 Quick Wins

1. Name the Pattern: Write one behavior that pulls you away from your goal — awareness breaks the loop.

2. Anchor in Purpose: Reconnect with your “why” every morning. Remind yourself what the goal truly represents — not just money, but freedom.

3. Choose Calm Focus: When you feel the urge to overdo, pause. Ask, “Is this action aligned with my goal or just keeping me safe?”

✨ The Breakthrough

The real cost of self-sabotage isn’t the time you lose — it’s the peace, confidence, and income you never give yourself the chance to experience.

When you clear the emotional clutter behind your habits, you stop working against yourself — and start creating results with ease.

If you’ve been stuck in patterns of overworking, avoidance, or inconsistency, it’s not a motivation problem — it’s a capacity problem.

👉 Take my free quiz: What’s Blocking Your Business and Income?
Discover what’s really behind your self-sabotage and overworking — and learn how to release it so you can create results that match your effort.

Because your dreams deserve your energy — not your exhaustion. 💛

The biggest income-earning action any business person can take is being their number one best client/customer.

Too many business people expect others to invest in their product or service and yet they don't invest in themselves.

Use 100% of the product or service.

Be an example of what is possible with the product or service.

Be a walking, talking billboard of the possibility of the product or service.

What doubts or disbelief do you have about your product or service?

Why?

What do you need to think, feel or do to overcome them?

What you believe about your product or service will be communicated in how you speak about what you offer.

Have you ever heard someone tell a story about a restaurant they enjoyed and you just had to go to?

Or, they told you about a friend they loved, and you just could not wait to meet that friend too?

The enthusiasm is contagious.

The passion is transferred by the words and tone of the terms and analogies used.

That is the secret to effective marketing and sales.

Take the time to fall in love with your product or service.

I promise it will be worth it.

Overcoming the Terror Barrier: Transform Your Goals with Confidence

The “Terror Barrier” is a term I learned from Bob Proctor. He describes it as “the feeling of fear and anxiety you experience when you are about to push past your comfort zone in a major way.” Some people call it the upper limit or the river of misery.

When I used to encounter the terror barrier while pursuing a big goal, I mistakenly believed it meant I was doing something wrong or that I wasn’t meant to achieve my dream. I thought a real goal should feel beautiful, rosy, and straightforward. This misconception often leads people to change or reduce their goals to something “more reasonable.”

In the past, I tried everything to avoid the discomfort, which only left me feeling frustrated and disappointed with no progress to show for it.

Recently, I had two client calls where both clients were facing their versions of the terror barrier. Their brains were resisting change and growth, suggesting they stop or reduce their goals. The doubt, fear, and worry seemed natural and necessary.

As their coach, my role is to help them understand what is happening, hold space for them as they experience these emotions, guide them in self-talk through the terror barrier, and develop a game plan to achieve their goals.

If we reduce our goals to avoid discomfort, we end up feeling frustrated and unsatisfied, even if we achieve the new, lower goal. If we drop the goal and try to go around it, we still need to face the next level, costing us time, money, and energy.

Going through the terror barrier is the only way. The strategic by-product is that we set even more significant, scarier goals than before.

If you have a big dream and have hit your terror barrier, I can help you. My clients and I have found a more effective way to overcome it, saving time, money, and energy while achieving our goals.

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One of the most common desires my clients come to coaching sessions is the desire to be motivated AND stay motivated.

One of the most common desires my clients come to coaching sessions is the desire to be motivated AND stay motivated.

Some clients think I can say something to motivate them to keep taking action, especially when things are not working out in their business.

In the 20 years I have been in business; I too looked for external things to keep me motivated through the rollercoaster of business.

Over the years, I have used motivational speakers, motivational music, motivational stories, motivational books, podcasts, hope, and wishes.

AND they all lasted for some time but quickly wore off.

I learned that to stay motivated, especially when things are not going as I wanted, I needed to identify why I was going for my goal.

What was my no matter what reason for creating a goal?

What was the innermost desire?

When we think a goal will fix something and the work we are doing towards that goal is not shown externally, our brain decides what we are doing is not working, or the goal is impossible.

AND that is where the external motivation reminds us it is possible.

The shift in my actions and the actions my clients take is when they can generate motivation internally.

They are driven by themselves and can tap into their own motivation regardless of what is happening outside.

The super-motivated have a compelling no matter what reason that motivates them to show up.

The super-motivated have a story and reason they tap into, regardless of what happens.

The magic is in how they think about themselves, their business, their customers, and the gift they have.

This thinking is something that becomes their way of thinking and becomes just who they are.

If you are looking for consistent motivation to create the income and business you want, I can help you.

Think of the long-term impact of the constant action taken from consistent motivation on you, your business, and the people you serve.

Want to create twice as much in half the time?

Want to create twice as much in half the time?

Spend some time focusing on one item or to do at a time.

I used to spend a lot of my time multitasking.

I used to think it was creating more and was being productive. Only to learn it was not helping me be more productive AND it cost me my creativity.

Every time our brain moves from one focus to the next, it reduces our concenration and does not allow us to tap into our brains highest possibility.

Every time our brain moves from one thing to the next, it takes our brain time to adjust and it uses up precious brain energy.

The energy our brains uses to readjust is not spent on really tapping into it's fullest potential.

So now I try not to multitask and focus on one thing at a time.

I have noticed my brain is so much more creative and comes up with ideas and possibilities that we're already in plain sight.

As we focus on one thing at a time, it allows our brain to go into flow, which has our brains tapping into it's fullest capacity and geniuses.

When we finish a task, it gives our brain a sense of accomplishment and motivates it to do more, which also fuels our brain to want to show up for the reward.

When our brain is self-motivated, it's easier to do more, create more, and thus earn more.

So focusing on one thing at a time, can be the difference between hitting more of your goals and becoming the person who can do it over and over again, thus creating more in half the time.

I teach when it's focus time, turn off all distractions, like social media and turn on a timer. Spend time on that one item until time is up OR until the project is done.

I teach to use a timer, to give our brains a break and if the project requires a more extended period. Our brains can only focus entirely for a certain amount of time and thus work with our brains to create more together.

Teach yourself to trust that you will focus and get the project done AND there will be time to have fun after, which is even more enjoyable when the work is done.

If you are ready to create twice as much in half the time, I can help you. Send me a private message, and let's schedule a discovery call.

Brain Waste — The Hidden Cost of Underusing Your Potential

Introduction

“Brain waste.”

That term was originally used to describe the millions of highly educated immigrants working below their qualifications — people with degrees and advanced skills taking lower-wage or low-skill jobs just to survive.

When I first read the statistics, it shook me.
But over the years, I’ve realized “brain waste” doesn’t only happen in traditional employment. It happens in businesses, too.

It happens when capable, educated, experienced women play small, overwork, or stay stuck in survival because they’re operating below their potential — not because they’re not ready, but because their beliefs and conditioning tell them to “stay safe.”

How “Brain Waste” Shows Up in Business

Brain waste happens when you:

• Do everything yourself because asking for help feels uncomfortable.

• Charge less because you fear rejection or judgment.

• Stay busy doing what feels safe instead of what would grow your income.

• Downplay your voice or expertise because you were taught humility means safety.

Many immigrant women were raised to believe that security comes from hard work, education, and keeping the peace — not from owning power, visibility, or leadership.
So even in business, the pattern continues.

We’re working hard, but not creating at the level of our ability.

What We Uncover in Coaching

When I work with immigrant businesswomen, we look beyond strategies and tactics. We uncover:

• Why you’ve accepted your current level of results.

• What patterns of thought, emotion, and action are keeping you there.

• How to unlearn survival habits that no longer serve your goals.

Because when you clear those old patterns, you stop wasting your brilliance on overthinking, overworking, and undercharging.

What Happens When You End “Brain Waste”

Once my clients start releasing the emotional and mental clutter that kept them operating below their potential, they begin to:

• See new possibilities they couldn’t before.

• Create more income with less stress.

• Use their full experience and intelligence to lead with confidence.

They stop surviving.
They start creating.

And they finally live the freedom they came here to build.

Final Word

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When I arrive, then......

“When I arrive then....”

I have used this phrase or some version of it for years.

It seemed like an innocent or even sometimes motivating thought.

I did not know how this phrase was actually costing me my happiness in the present moment.

Think about it;

When I arrive then I will be so happy.

It means I will and can only be happy when I arrive.

It means the act of arriving will be better than where I am or the journey I’m on.

It means there, where I have arrived to, is better than the here where I am.

It has me sacrificing my current happiness or joy, for a future where I have arrived.

And what happens when I don’t arrive?

Sadness and suffering.

What happens to this happiness I have been withholding from myself?

What if there or where I have arrived to is still 50% positive and 50% negative?

We feel robbed, because isn’t there supposed to be better?

Isn’t there supposed to be perfect?

Isn’t that why we are going there?

Total mind fuck!!!

One little phrase can cause so much pain and suffering.

What if we stopped using this phrase and decided there is not any better than here?

What if we decided that we are on the journey and the journey is why we are here?

What if we decided that the journey is just as fun as the destination?

What if we have already arrived, because our past self created the life we currently have?

We have arrived!!

Let’s enjoy the hell out where we are!!

Here is a little Secret, there will only be as much fun as here 😉

Have fun my friends, you have arrived!!

You are impacting lives

My brain is always blown away when I hear who I’m impacting by living my life.

I made a decision about 10 years ago that I wanted to leave everyone I encountered better than I found them.

It could be by a kind word, smile or motivation. It could also be by tough love.

This was years before I decided to be a life coach and I never regretted that decision, as I got the benefits of that decision.

Now that I’m a life coach and actively marketing, this core belief still motivates me daily and is the grounds for how and what I post.

And the people who are being impacted and what impacts them blows me away and humbles me at the same time.

A little girl from Kenya, living her life is inspiring people to live their best lives.

A mother who wants to be an example of what is possible for her children can inspire another person to do the same.

A one day grandmother who wants to change her family tree for generations to come, can inspire more generations of families.

The moral of the story is, live your best life and believe someone’s life is being impacted by your choice to live your life.

People are watching, even though they are not liking or commenting.

Ever time you overcome your struggles, you are inspiring someone to believe it is possible for them too.

Continue to show up and do you, and trust the world is better because you did.

The Cost of Money

Last week I turned away and refunded a client who had paid me my full invoice.

Why?

1. I was not the coach for her

2. There is something like paying a high price for money - I know this concept blow me away too when I learnt it

Before I learnt the concept of working too hard and paying a high price for money, I believed there was nothing like the cost of money.

I was willing to do almost anything moral for it.

I once worked for an employer who had me working at least 2 jobs for one salary.

I thought I was a hard worker and did the job with tons of pride and a very positive heart.

What I missed was I was working too hard for the money, which was coming from scarcity and from believing I was worth less.

Because I believed I was not worth more, my employer paid me what I thought I was worth.

I realized I was discounting my value and worth when I asked for a $3,000 raise and was told no. I went to another company and was paid more for less work and it includes bonuses. My first year’s bonus was over $3000.

I am a life coach because of that move, as I work less and have less stress and requirements.

My relationship with myself is so much greater, because I was willing to stop paying a high price for money.

Where are you paying a high price for money?

How are you discounting yourself and not seeing your own worth?

Money is attracted to people who know their worth and are willing to ask for it.

Money is abundant and wants to hang out with abundance and knowing what you are worth and asking for your worth is abundant.

Hire me as your coach and learn more about how to attract, create and have more money.

Imagine the possibilities of making more money and not paying any more for it.

Imagine the possibilities of even just asking for what you are worth from the universe and it showing you how you still are asking for too little.

Believe to create the results

When I was struggling in my business, I would look for the results for me to stay in action and belief.

What this looks like was when I would go into action and I would not get the results that I wanted, I would:

- make it mean something negative about me

- stop taking action

- seek something external from me to give me motivation to take action.

As I have grown and evolved into the woman I am today, I stay in believe which keeps me taking action despite the results.

I do this by:

- believing that the action is worth it and the results will happen.

- Believing in me and in my abundance and prosperity.

- Believing in a higher power and calling and knowing that the power of the compound effect is at work.

- Believing in the law of you of “reap what you sow” and that there is time for planting in time for sowing.

- Not tying my belief to the results or lack there off of results.

- Not waiting for the results to dictate how I will show up and or act or deal.

This requires the feeling of belief and trust that hard work and consistency pays off.

What would your business look like a year from now, if you showed up consistently in belief and took action despite any results you created in your life and business?

Who would you help and serve if you were in belief and trust more?

If you are ready to take your business and the people you serve to the next level by how you experience your results, hire me as your coach.

We can do amazing things while scared

I’m freaking scared.

I’m feeling fear in my body.

I’m shaking all over and my amazing coach is lovingly holding space for me.

I’m still scared and crying.

I’m so scared and trying to reassure my body and me that I can do this and I can trust me and my coach, but I cannot and ask to come out of feeling my emotions.

The story I have is that making the wrong decision will mean death and it will hurt the people I love.

The story I have is death is the end and there is nothing on the other side.

The story I have is death will mean I failed not only me but the ones who depend on me.

I cry. My coach continues to hold space for me and says something that changes my life forever “it’s ok, nothing has gone wrong here. Here is where you just choose to tell a different story”.

Like what?

My thoughts and fear is just a story?

Well my friends, yes it is.

Me sitting there in front of my amazing coach is just a series of events that have blown my mind.

The journey I am on started after my Grandma Ruth died and because of the amazing relationship I had with her before she died and most importantly, the relationship I have with her since she died.

Strong urges, decisions and intuitions, that had me sitting across from my beautiful coach.

So death is not the end, it can be the beginning.

Death is an opportunity for new beginnings.

I hurt my loved ones unconditionally when I am alive and I will hurt them when I die.

And I can be ok with it all.

I can be sad and scared and still feel and process the emotions.

I can question all my stories and I can retell them.

The fact I feel fear means I’m alive and experiencing life.

The fact I feel fear is just an opportunity to be curious and find the stories I have chosen in the past and I can choose to trust the process and me.

So I have decided to make friends with my fear, feel it and appreciate it as the fact I’m here on this side and living.

I have also chosen to up level my living and see how much I can milk from this living experience.

Join me as I do scary shit surrounded by amazing women and coaches who are doing scary shit and living life to its fullest.

A way to attract more customers without sending Direct Messages

I have had 5 different people tag me in posts promoting their business in the last 2 days.

These are examples of individuals who have learnt a new technique that in my opinion is what gives marketing on social media a bad rap.

The irony is, I have been teaching my clients and the women in my free business group about effective marketing and this is NOT effective marketing.

Why this will not work with high ticket and long term sales.

1. It is transactional. Transactional selling is focused on the quick and one time sales.

2. The focus is on the sales person and their need to close a sale or meet a goal

3. It’s requires very little work and skill from sales person

4. It is a short term solution to a long term problem

5. It conveys the feelings of scarcity and desperation

6. It requires reaching out to 100s of people for a few sales

I teach my clients and the women in my free group how to market effectively by building relationships with their prospects.

1. Relationship marketing creates long term relationships with your people. I have know relationships that have lasted generations, where mom was a customer and now daughters are customers.

2. Prospects decide THEY know, like and trust you and they choose to buy from you.

3. It has you building long term relationships and you work with less customers and results in higher sales

4. It requires skill and is the preferred way used by individuals who want to earn professional income

5. It serves the customers and is focused on the customers

6. It adds value into the world and increases the reorders, referrals, and recruits actually choosing to join your team.

7. It comes from the feeling of abundance and trust

If you would like to learn how to build a profitable business, that incrementally grows using relationship marketing, join my free group.