What You Can’t See Is What’s Wearing You Out
You’re not working hard because you’re lazy.
You’re not stuck because you’re unmotivated.
You’re overworking because something underneath the surface is still running the show.
You’ve done the planning. You’ve got the goals. You’re putting in the hours.
So why do things still feel harder than they should be?
Because there’s a blind spot—and it’s costing you time, energy, and success.
The Iceberg of Overworking
Most people only focus on what they can see above the surface:
The hustle
The to-do lists
The non-stop effort
But underneath? That’s where the real weight is:
Guilt for resting
Fear of being seen as lazy
Shame from old expectations
Proving your worth through doing
Until we look under the surface, we’ll always be working harder than necessary.
Meet Maya
Maya is a brilliant coach. Her calendar is packed, her offers are solid, and yet she wakes up with a tight chest and a running mind. When we worked together, she discovered the belief: "If I’m not producing, I’m falling behind." Once she saw it clearly, we replaced it with a new truth. She started cutting her hours, honoring her energy—and her income grew.
Before, Maya was saying yes out of guilt, working to prove herself, and constantly feeling like she was behind. After uncovering what was really driving her, she began saying yes with joy (or not at all), working from grounded confidence, and feeling clear and in control. Her calendar didn’t just change—her energy and results transformed.
3 Powerful Questions
What do I not want to feel right now—and how might I be working to avoid it?
What “rule” or belief might be making things feel harder than they need to be?
What would I still be doing even if it didn’t bring results?
3 Quick Wins
Take 3 minutes to pause today and ask: “What’s actually necessary?” Eliminate 1 task that’s performative, not productive.
Write out one fear that’s quietly driving your action. (Example: “If I slow down, I’ll fall behind.”)
Say this aloud: “If I knew the right thing to do was easier, what would I try next?
If you keep doing what you’re doing, the cost isn’t just exhaustion—it’s your creativity, your peace, and your power.
But if you’re willing to pause and look beneath the surface?
You’ll finally stop carrying what was never yours to begin with.
Take the quiz now and uncover what’s driving your overworking.
