Are You Overfunctioning Without Realizing It? You Might Be in the Courtroom
Have you ever noticed how some conversations feel less like a dialogue and more like a trial? You walk in with your truth, but suddenly it feels like you’re the one on the witness stand, defending your choices, your value, even your very worth.
I call this the invisible courtroom.
In this courtroom, there’s always someone who steps into the role of judge or prosecutor. Their words might sound like opinions, advice, or “just being honest,” but underneath it’s about being right, proving you wrong, or holding power over the final word.
And what happens? Without realizing it, you take the bait. You step into the courtroom. You start presenting your case. You pull out evidence, pile on explanations, and argue for your worth.
But here’s the truth: the moment you step into that courtroom, you’ve already lost—not because you’re wrong, but because you agreed to a trial you never needed to attend.
The Before: Life in the Courtroom
Let me paint a picture.
Thought: “If I don’t explain myself, they’ll think I don’t care.”
Feeling: Defensive, anxious.
Action: Over-explaining, proving, rehashing the same point, giving more energy than the situation deserves.
Result: You feel drained, unheard, and even resentful.
Imagine a day where every interaction is like this. You get pulled into someone else’s accusations or criticisms. You defend yourself, you replay the conversation in your head, and by the time you sit down to work on your business or connect with family, you’re already exhausted.
That’s the cost of the courtroom—it steals your focus, your peace, and your power.
The After: Choosing to Walk Out
Now, imagine the same moment, but you choose differently.
Thought: “My worth is not up for negotiation.”
Feeling: Calm, grounded.
Action: You respond briefly (“Thanks for sharing”) or choose not to engage at all. You redirect your energy back to what actually matters.
Result: You leave the conversation lighter, with your energy intact and your focus on building the life and business you want.
Suddenly, you’re no longer the defendant in someone else’s trial—you’re the one setting the terms of engagement. You’re free to create, to connect, and to show up for yourself with dignity and strength.
Why This Matters
Every time you walk into that courtroom, you drain your energy. Over time, this doesn’t just cost you words—it costs you clarity, confidence, and the ability to grow your business with ease.
The more often you walk out of the courtroom, the more energy you reclaim for what actually matters: your dreams, your clients, your peace.
3 Awareness Questions
Where in my life do I feel like I’m always on trial?
How much energy am I spending proving myself instead of just being myself?
What would it feel like to leave the courtroom and walk out free?
3 Shifts to Try Today
Notice when you feel the urge to defend yourself—and pause instead.
Use a neutral phrase like, “That’s your perspective,” to step out of the trial.
Write down three things you know are true about your worth—no debate, no evidence required.
Final Thought
The courtroom only exists if you show up.
You don’t have to attend every trial.
You don’t have to defend your worth.
When you leave the courtroom, you reclaim that energy—and with it, the freedom to build the life and business you’ve been working so hard for.
👉 Ready to stop stepping into invisible courtrooms and start channeling your energy into real results? Let’s talk. Schedule your call today and discover how much lighter and freer life feels when you walk out.
